Thursday, April 13, 2017
Rose Quartz Boutique : My Androgynous Soul: Androgyny, Sex Appeal and Div...
Rose Quartz Boutique : My Androgynous Soul: Androgyny, Sex Appeal and Div...: Peace and thanks for joining me to explore androgyny. Although you may at first think it is about "identity" it is actu...
The Adrogynous Soul: Androgyny, Divinity and The Secrets of Self By Emily Imani
Thanks for joining me on this journey to explore androgyny.
Although you may at first think it is about identity, it is actually about the energies we all posses, so let's begin tapping In.
This is nothing new, this is ancient news.
This is for all of us on a journey to accept both our masculine and feminine polarities.
Thanks for joining me
Thanks for joining me
Emily Imani Rose Quartz
Androgyny is when both masculine and feminine parts exist in the same individual. The stronger those parts are and the more they are in equilibrium with each other, the more androgynous the person is. Androgyny is not gay. Alot of people don't understand this but many of us have strong masculine AND Feminine sides and it's not really something we can hide ...
To be clear, this is not a blog about homosexuality. I don't know alot about homosexuality. Therefore I feel it's not my place to write about it. I guess I want to point out as well, that this is not a blog about trans-genderism or asexuality. Nor is this a blog about the feminization of men or any modern political topic related to people switching up genders.
Actually, androgyny is the opposite of all the confusion related to the sexualization of gender. I think you will love this blog. Check out the dance video at the bottom featuring the dance Bamaya which I have performed here in Seattle with Awal Alhassan. I want to show you how culture and spirituality embrace the energy of androgyny. But first things first....what exactly does the word really mean ?
Actually, androgyny is the opposite of all the confusion related to the sexualization of gender. I think you will love this blog. Check out the dance video at the bottom featuring the dance Bamaya which I have performed here in Seattle with Awal Alhassan. I want to show you how culture and spirituality embrace the energy of androgyny. But first things first....what exactly does the word really mean ?
"An androgynous person is a female or male who has a high degree of both feminine (expressive) and masculine (instrumental) traits."
Androgyny deals with the expressions of dual energies among Gods and humans. It's a topic of the most sublime sensuality within the esoteric sexual nature. It is not about gender or sex. If anything, the topic of androgyny is a open playing field where neither gender identification nor the act of sex or who you want to have sex with are important. Let's start with the Gods and see what we can learn about our selves. This is one of the most complex topics to write about. It is so easy to confuse and misconstrue this fairly simple information.
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| Obatala, Yuroba Orisha |
Obu Moró, and Obatalá Ayáguna are male; Obatalá Obanlá, Obatalá Ochanlá, and Obatalá Alaguema are female.
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| Ardhanarishvara, Hindu God/Goddess |
Ardhanarishvara represents the synthesis of masculine and feminine energies of the universe (Purusha and Prakriti) and illustrates how Shakti, the female principle of God, is inseparable from (or the same as, according to some interpretations) Shiva, the male principle of God. The union of these principles is exalted as the root and womb of all creation.
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| Mawu-Lisa West African Dual Sex Diety |
Mawu Lisa: A dual-sex West African divinity, offspring of another androgynous deity Nana Buluku, combining Mawu the female aspect and Lisa the male aspect. In some versions, Mawu is male and Lisa female. They were said to have produced the first humans, seven pairs of twins.
"Tantra homologizes the human body to the cosmos.
Sexual representations of uniting
male and female polarities, are endemic
in tantric literature, ritual, and symbolic art. "
| Male/Female Principles are Equal in One |
Being in a society where everything is over sexualized (assumed to be about or leading to the act of sex) its very common to associate topics of "gender" with the topic of sex. As soon as we determine gender in an adult, ( male or female ) we are curious about who that person is having sex with and what gender they are attracted to. These days people are claiming to be everything from gender free to transgender, as well as bi- sexual, asexual, homo- sexual, gender -neutral, metro-sexual and way too many other names and labels for me to list without offending someone or leaving something out.
That is why I love the whole realm of androgyny. It has nothing to do with the sex act or who wants to fuck who. Instead it is an inward glance at human possibility as we can choose not only to balance our energies but to manage them in unique non-sexual ways.
Growing up I was never a girly girl but at times I wished I was. I liked boys. I had crushes on boys. I always felt bad because I was not the type of girl, that knew how to be a "girl". Of course I was too busy riding my bike, getting chased by dogs, falling out of tree's and getting black eyes and having fun, to really worry about it.
By middle school my interest in eye shadow and flavored lip gloss took over. However my boyish feelings made me feel as if boys would find me unattractive. In the end I became shy. I wasn't sure what part of myself to share or how.
By middle school my interest in eye shadow and flavored lip gloss took over. However my boyish feelings made me feel as if boys would find me unattractive. In the end I became shy. I wasn't sure what part of myself to share or how.
As a teenage girl there was constant pressure not to be a "bald headed bitch" - it seemed to me a pressure to constantly prove my femininity in visual ways in order to be pretty. The idea that I could appear masculine by not having long hair was a horrible stigma, sealing a fate of unacceptable unattractiveness which no Black girl should burden the world with- well that is the message we got. Pressure on top of pressure to be "acceptable". And I'm sure boys go thru the exact same dynamic on the other side of the polarity.
I noticed androgyny in certain pop stars. For example, Micheal Jackson, Prince and David Bowie were all men who had mastered a level of super masculinity that also embraced aspects of the feminine ascetics.
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| Prince, plenty make up but sexually dominant with women |
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| Micheal Jackson pretty and very masculine how did he manage that ? |
These men ( Micheal Jackson, Prince, David Bowie,Bruno Mars etc.) were sexually appealing, and often completely mesmerizing to heterosexual women. Is androgyny the upper echelon of masculinity and male hetero-sexual expression? Or is androgyny intriguing because it is closer to divinity than what is normally exhibited by humans . Most of us feel very out of place sampling and showcasing any aspect of our androgynous nature. Yet we all are made of both masculine and feminine energy.
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| Who was prettier..David Bowie or Wife Iman |
I'm starting to think our current beliefs around what is masculine and what is feminine is becoming like a prison to our souls. Men have become boxed in with no way to express themselves. Each and every day the old ways of male adornment are dying out in America. Depending on where you live you may never see a finely dressed men, smelling oh so good in polished shoes and tailored menswear, Did we forget that men actually enjoy the exoticism and the enhancement of their appeal thru beautiful clothes, accessories and skincare? Men have sensual rituals of adornment and preparation just as women do. Yet we tend to only associate this with the feminine nature.
Did we lose sight of the masculine nature so much that we confuse being a man with being a person who must not show any creativity in expressing himself ? This is so different from nature ( and what's in nature is. ..natural).
Look at the male peacock, bright colorful eye catching and cocky all sure to attract a female mate! Male ducks are the ones that waddle with iridescence colors on their feather, while the female duck and peacock have much duller colors. In nature we see the energy of masculinity is not void of beauty but literally explodes with beauty.
In the often referenced Masai Tribe the men who are adorned to catch and keep the women's eyes. In its natural state the mating game is won thru the male being adroygynmous- meaning he is not just a warrior he is also a beauty . The sensual applications apply to him and aid in his attraction.
No one has deeply explored what excites different women but apparently enough women have a taste for androgynous men. I'm not talking women who are attracted to bisexual men or transgender men. Those are very different categories and topics, definitely not the same thing. Once again androgyny surpasses the compass of sexual orientation. For some reason it is not about sexual orientation, no matter how tempting it is to make it.
For me androgyny feels like mystery and a sort of rebellion. Like not wearing a bra under a wife-beater and wearing my braids down to my hips or my letting my afro be a free halo of self organized choas. Its like being pregnant and refusing to tell anyone the sex of the baby. Androgyny says perceive me however you need me to be. And it is also says I am available for your fantasy but that does not mean you know me or ever will . Sexually a man and woman who can equally tap into their masculine and feminine energies will experience pleasure in the doubles. Especially if they create for each other spaces for freedom and expression in all areas of their life.
I tend to find it sexy even though it is an area that ducks away from the actual topic of having sex. To me its the part of sexiness that is sex ( the absolute intercourse of the self). Androgyny is the level of sensuality that makes loves to itself. I feel it is the place where man and woman actually meet spiritually as one. So kissing becomes...more fun. It's a place where we stop acting out roles and share our souls energy. Wild and free. Sublime deep eroticism comes to mind when I think of sex and love play between those who tap into this nature within and dare to celebrate it. What are you thoughts on androgyny?
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| Aliyah did it best |
Nowadays the female body is back to being on display almost as if it ( the body) is the sole expression of feminity available to girls. Fashions are tight and expose not only our curves but our pussy lips. It seems women are stuck proving ourselves to men. Our outspoken body parts are the only way we are allowed say " This is who I am" - we feel we must show everything to be a "girl". The true natural expression of the feminine has been lost in the photoshop and our masculine energies are over utilized in ways that cause problems in our personal lives.
This is unhealthy, as we all have our dual energy within us battling for recognition. This has nothing to do with who we are attracted to to sexually. It has to do with the fact and the human reality.. that we all embody both masculine and feminine energy. In essence this is our divinity. The true nature of any God is duality and the ability to create, to manifest, to build and destroy.
When society tells us that we are just one of these energies ( the more dominant one) what happens to our self if we happen to be androgynous ? We begin to repress the parts of our self we feel will not be accepted according to our gender and sexual orientation. For many people this leads to an entire shut down and feelings of shame, because the murky waters are so hard to navigate. Yet, it is the full exploration and acceptance of the masculine and feminine that make us whole.
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| Boy Feelins in a Straight Girls World, SELF expressions |
We become open and sexy and curious to everyone we meet when we engage our divine masculine and our divine feminine. Sometimes its better that way. This not to say, be gender free. I don't know anything about being gender free.
This is to say be gender-full any way you need to be . Ultimately the more of yourself you can tap into and share with the world or your partner..means them more of you that can be loved. As we each heal, accept and transmute inner energies we become complete .
Understanding androgyny as both human and divine helped me to better love myself. It does not mean I will dress in a manly way, or that I will walk in a manly manner. My masculine side is more internal. I tap into into when I can't make a sane decision. I tap into it and act out of it as needed. It has nothing to do with sex, gender or my sexual preference. It is just a part of me I need as much as I need my feminine energy in order to survive.
This is to say be gender-full any way you need to be . Ultimately the more of yourself you can tap into and share with the world or your partner..means them more of you that can be loved. As we each heal, accept and transmute inner energies we become complete .
In what areas do you want \ to Balance your Self ?
We have failed to see androgyny as a normal aspect of many heterosexual adults. We are stuck in a society that continually develops more and more humiliating body based definitions of what it means to be feminine. So much that people think a surgery can turn them into a woman. Our society has made men feel isolated when it comes to dealing with emotions. By tapping into the energy of androgyny we can become one within ourselves. We can learn to see our lovers, husbands,wives etc. with new awe. Instead of putting each other down let's recognize the variants of divinity at work. It's time to stop telling our men how to be "real" men.
We are reminded to balance and LOVE both our feminine and masculine sides. If you don't have an androgynous bone in your body, trust me, that is fine and quite normal. There is still the divine call for a deeper understanding of others and our selves. Of all people it is perhaps heterosexuals that fail to explore ourselves. As we seek love & happiness we must also seek within and thus remove the invisible bariers we tend to have with our partners.
Emily Imani Rose Quartz, Rose Quartz Counseling and Consulting
Speaker, Presenter, Facilitator, Writer, Dance by The Chakras Teacher
My Dance Teacher Awal Alhassan performing his traditonal dance Bamaya where the men showcase their expression of female flirtuality, seduction and the power of teasing hips
Saturday, March 25, 2017
Rose Quartz Boutique : Twin Flames Vs. Soulmates The Real Shake Down By E...
Rose Quartz Boutique : Twin Flames Vs. Soulmates The Real Shake Down By E...: Hi Its been a while thanks for joining me on this magic journey of mysterious soul love and the passions of down to earth ...
Friday, March 24, 2017
Rose Quartz Boutique : Twin Flames Vs. Soulmates The Real Shake Down By E...
Rose Quartz Boutique : Twin Flames Vs. Soulmates The Real Shake Down By E...: Hi Its been a while thanks for joining me on this magic journey of mysterious soul love and the passions of down to earth ...
Rose Quartz Boutique : Twin Flames Vs. Soulmates The Real Shake Down By E...
Rose Quartz Boutique : Twin Flames Vs. Soulmates The Real Shake Down By E...: Hi Its been a while thanks for joining me on this magic journey of mysterious soul love and the passions of down to earth ...
Twin Flames Vs. Soulmates The Real Shake Down By Emily Imani RoseQuartz
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| Hi Its been a while thanks for joining me on this magic journey of mysterious soul love and the passions of down to earth relationships - Rose Quartz |
While Soulmates often recognize each other from a past life, Twinflames live many lifetimes without ever meeting. Kindred Spirits are people whom we find easy companionship with in our life based on our current interests and needs and make great mates.
Now let's go way deeper down the rabbit hole....
Twinflame-A twinflame is just One. Meaning you only have one twin flame no matter how many times you are reincarnated. Unfortunately it's unlikely you will happen to be born at the same time as your twinflame during the many lifetimes you may live. The average age difference between twin flames (should they both be living at the same time) is forty years. Twinflames are literally two people whose soul originated at one time eons ago. Thru out time these twins may or may not be alive at the same time, therefore it is said that when twinflames find each other and are no more than 20 years apart in age it is blessing! They may actually be able to have a relationship together.
Of course twinflames must both be adults in earth life years in order to have any kind of romantic relationship.
Of course twinflames must both be adults in earth life years in order to have any kind of romantic relationship.
"Most Twin Flame couples note a 10 to 40 year age difference, however this is not set in stone. The bigger the gap, the less chances for the pair to come together in the physical. It is said that Twin Flames are one soul that originally split millions of years ago. The reincarnation cycles help the souls evolve." - Article Excerpt
http://www.twinflamerunner.com/twin-flames
Twinflames- The more healed each of the twins becomes, the more likely it is that they will finally be ready, after hundreds, perhaps thousands of years, to meet. The lifetime in which they meet is said to be one of their last as they have both chosen the pathway of ascension and enlightenment.The trademark of twinflames is that they cannot come together unless both are doing the work of self healing. Most people will not be ready to unite with their reflection during the current lifetime.
If one is struggling with self love they would do best to be with a partner that can help them unlock self love in this lifetime. Twinflames do not come together to teach each other about self love. They must already be there, and well on the pathway before they can meet.
Twiinflames can ONLY come together to fulfill a destiny to teach the world about unconditional love. Twinflames can be distinguished by their desire to heal themselves and others. This internal mission is something both have naturally embraced prior to meeting each other. They find each other on the pathway if they ever meet. It is not always an easy pathway nor an easy life. Each twinflame will be straddled with a purpose beyond a great job and raising a happy family. They may appear to have short attention spans or seem flakey, even standoffish to others. Yet two twins will notice many interesting things about the other, that slowly draw them closer to each other and "their selves".
This is why I say do not desire to be on the twinflame pathway. Either you are or you are not. I personally think you are blessed if you are not, as it can create restlessness and confusion if not nurtured with every daily choice to clear and cleanse the inner self and energetic bodies.
Twinflames will have a hard time settling down to the normal celebrated joys of life, such as a good paying job and an active sex life. Many earthly milestones will not bring happiness to individual twinflames who feel consumed with a need to fufill a universal purpose. Ideally they will come to the place in their souls journey where they can unite with their twin. This means the masculine and femiNine energy are completely accepted and ready to come together to become one. This equates unconditional love for self and each other, and balance.
The universe separates twinflames as part of its mission to to teach us about unconditional love, as twinflames can only come together via unconditional love. This is an important time in earth history. It is said for the first time ever many twinflames are alive at the same time and are healed enough to finally meet once again. Twinflames ignite in each other a strong desire to heal their selves as part of their preparation to unify. Many of those of the healing pathway , ascension pathway and enlightenment pathway are also getting closer to their twinflame.
Twinflames will find an otherworldly quality to their relationship should they actually meet at a time they can get involved in a romantic affair. Twinflames are said to often look alike, and have a series of almost bizarre similarities and interests and talents, despite, often having age, race and ethnic differences. Because they are literally the same soul in two different physical bodies, as one heals thyself, their twin is also healed. One of the most interesting twinflame stories is that of the late Micheal Jackson and Susan Elsa. I also believe that poet Emily Dickinson and Author Nathanial Hawthorne were twinflames. The reclusive Emily Dickinson who was much younger than Hawthorne and a continent away yet expressed a desire to meet him. However she never left her monk like lifestyle of confinement and he eventually married. They both left this life leaving behind a strikingly similar body of written work and ideologies.
Where writers Nathanial Hawthorne and Emily Dickinson Twinflames who never met ?
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| The late Micheal Jacksons Supposed TwinFlame Susan Elsa |
With Twinflames it is usually the feminine partner who knows right away that they are twinflames and the masculine energy that is not sure what is going on, yet he will definitely notice he is experiencing something he has never experienced before..the question is are both of them ready to meet their reflection in the mirror of life? For sure the image may be hard to see. In the case of soulmates it often the the man or both partners who recognize immediately that they are soulmates and both will quickly fall into happiness just as when finding a long lost friend.
Twinflames often exp. separation as part of their journey. Sex between twinflames is said to be the total unification of masculine and femiNine energies. A delightful, intense re-merging of self, as the soul is now complete in the physical realm. Twinflames are literally one soul. In the spiritual realm they are always together as one.
However for twinflames to merge in the physical world, both halves must be whole within themselves. They must each have gone thru the the process of healing in order to unify with their masculine or femeNine energies. For many lifetimes the twins will never meet or just barely cross paths. It is only thru enduring multiple lives, each with various life lessons which must result in the evolution of the soul (trust in unconditional love) that unification can finally happen. This is why there is so much excitement around the twinflame reunion. Both twins will have a sense of "finally meeting".
Because the flames are identical they will both bring the same issues to the table which may lead to a stop and start sort of love. For example if both twins are introverts it may take longer for them to connect, just as it is true if both are extroverted flirts who love to party, the vary characteristics that make them identical ( whether shyness, insecurity, promiscuity etc) will be the exact characteristics that may cause them to never unite peacefully.
SoulMates - While we each have one twinflame who we may never meet, we all have more than one soulmate. A soul mate is generally born around the time or years of your birth. A soulmate is someone whose soul is uniquely compatible with your soul. You will recognize a familiar feeling when you meet a soulmate. Soulmate love has a mystic and otherworldly elegance to it. Our Soulmates find us and are here to support us thru certain phases on our journey. Once the lesson is complete that particular soulmate may move on, yet we continue to remember them with nothing but love and know in some form we will meet again. If you have an Ex whom you only recall fondly perhaps they were a soulmate ?
Soulmates provide a sense of comfort to each other. A "knowing"- and a "recognition" that is hard to put into words. Romance with a Soulmate can be long lasting and ideal for marriage. However everyone will not find romance with a Soulmate as each soul is here to learn different lessons. You may meet a soulmate and sense a strong bond. You might fully explore this bond in a great relationship or you may end up enjoying the soul vibe from a distance especially if one of you is already in another relationship.
When Soulmates connect in romance it is an ideal situation. They will enjoy the warm sense of comfort that comes from feeling strong companionship and respect. Sex with a Soulmate will be special and often involves new positions. But perhaps it is conversation or other activities that alert you to the feeling you have found a Soulmate . During an average lifetime you will may meet Soulmates, both male and female. Ideally they will be at point in their journey that you can have a friendship or relationship that allows for you to be understood and loved for more than your looks and other superficial qualities.
Soulmates have an ability honor each other beyond the boundaries of their current life. For sure you and your soulmates have met before . A trademark of soul mates is that in a recent past life you had an important & serious relationship with them ( not necessarily romantic). You will likely fall into an easy companionship and may even share past life memories, visions and dreams. Soulmates may surprise you with a similar name, Birth date, astrological sign or other interesting coincidences. Soulmates may have totally different personalities and interests, yet still click.
Kindred Spirits-
Most often we will date, fall in love and marry a kindred spirits. These are people who we are attracted to at different times in our lives based on our growth and current desires. You will have plenty in common with your Kindred Spirits, but may outgrow them even as you get to know them. They are attractive and fun and make us feel better about ourselves. They may want us in a way that makes us feel good. Or we may want them and see them as a prize and really enjoy it when they choose us. Kindred Spirits can also manifest as the misery that loves our company because we are miserable too. We bond with our kindred spirits over certain developmental characteristics, situations and life lessons.
Most of the successful and loving marriages we see take place between Kindred Spirits. They represent the special unions of people who fell in love and decide to make it last. If both have the same goals they make the perfect team.
SUMMARY
Soulmates immediately feel a deep bond with each other because they have already lived many lives connected in some form of relationship be it family, romantic, friendship or teacher/student.
Twinflames on the other hand will experience something very different- a reflection of themselves in the other, after great deal of Ascension has occurred. Kindred Spirits are those like-minded people who we as humans living a physical life, can easily join with in relationships generally based on what is happening in our current life. Kindred Spirits are often what society agrees on as far as what a normal couple should look and be like.
What Is Best For You
Kindred Spirits: If you are someone who is always "growing" and changing , you may find that your relationships with kindred spirits doe not hold your interest because your interests are always changing or becoming deeper. Every time you go down the rabbit hole your partner stays above ground. This works great for some couples while others need more companionship and consistency. Kindred Spirits make the perfect couple for those rooted in mastering physical life who are creatures of habits, steady and consistent. This couple is capable of enjoying life and maintaining a schedule that benefits them. They will be able to dance thru work , hobbies and vacations together without disturbance.
SoulMates: Make perfect couples for those willing to deal with the depth involved. Many soulmates come together with past life issues still needing to be worked out with each other. These past life issues may add to the pressre of this already intense attraction. However when Soulmates do meet in romance it is usually a beautiful calm situation in which the bond feels timeless and so, so good. Some Soulmate couples may notice that the "old" feelings of jealousy or fear of betrayal keep coming up.
TwinFlames: Unlike Soulmates, Twinflames always and only manifest in pairs of : One Male Gender ( Masculine Energy) and One Female Gender ( FemeNine Energy). Twinflames will love each other intensely but only as much they honestly deeply love themselves. They must constantly work on healing themselves and walking the pathway of enlightenment as these are the roads to unconditional love. Otherwise can you imagine what it would be like to live with yourself and all your most difficult traits mutliplied by two ? The twinflame role is one of transmuting couple-hood into union or oneness. They also become portals that connect the physical realm with the spiritual realm in this universally healing love. But if the timing is wrong they are better off seeking a sparkling Kindred Spirit or a Patient Soulmate.
So there is no right or wrong after all ! Experience all, forgive all, and most important forgive yourself !
Peace I hope you loved this informative journey thru love relationships that pushed us to take a serious look the reality of the Soul and Spiritual Realms! How do you feel when you look in your beloveds eyes.. Whether you see a best friend, or someone you have a mystic connection with, is up to you and whatever you are going thru. Both sights are beautiful! I think the biggest gift is to see a reflection of our own love whenever we look at the important people in our lives.
Dear UniVerse: Let us know that our love has given a sense of safety and self acceptance to those we care for. Let their love shine back at us
Bright and Warm as the Rays of The Sun,
Strong as The Thorn
That Protects The Rose
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| Emily Imani Rose Quartz, Playing in the Backyard |
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