Wednesday, August 5, 2015

Strong and Submissive: Exploring Sexual Submission In A Modern Relationship





    
  
A submissive woman may be the most demanding of all women. This blog is not about professional BDSM or the sort of sexual submission that leaves bruises and welts. Indeed when it comes to submission there are many levels and styles to it. The levels are not necessarily dependent on the type of submission but on the internal depth of the relationship  between the partners. I am going to briefly discuss the realities of a submissive woman in a relationship with her dominant partner. Not a professional relationship, but a regular relationship ( i.e. marriage) in which outsiders may not know they are in the presence of a sub/dom couple ( submissive woman/dominant male).
 I am  not going to discuss the question of  being a submissive in relationship where the woman submits to her man per say, Muslim Cultures or even the Christian Belief. Actually, I am going to stumble a bit deeper down the rabbit hole into sexual submission. 



 You see some woman are sexual submissives and really get turned on by having the level of trust with their partner that is required to submit. In this case keep in mind A submissive woman is not a lady with low self -esteem. In order to submit she requires a man who she respects and TRUSTS in a way that is abnormal for most couples. She will not submit to any man she does love with all her heart. When such a woman finds a playful dom she is going to be in heaven! Finally she can release an aspect of her inner nature that many men simply cannot handle without taking advantage.













A Submissive woman may like: To be fed, bondage,

 stroked like a kitten, told what to do, be in submissive positions, cook, clean, be caressed when she does something well, she may like strokes or touches ( pressure) on her neck, pain combined with pleasure, boundary pushing, she enjoys relinquishing ( giving ) control to the man of her dreams

she likes to be rewarded, likes to feel "owned" and expects to be cared for,

she may put her sexual needs last because that is what turns her on so indeed, she is REALLY putting her sexual needs where they need to be.. for her pleasure to peak. She requires intellectual stimulation and mutual admiration.  Without MUTUAL deep respect, trust and communication this type of woman will never be free to be submissive.



 A good dominant man understands his woman, and has chosen to master what is required of him in order to maintain balance in the relationship in which the woman is a sexual submissive. He must be up for the ultimate responsibility of caring for her emotional well being  in the relationship. If a submissive woman is being abused or misused  she is NOT in the right relationship. 



Strong submissive woman say that submission is not servitude. They are not feeble or weak and they are quite sexy as they are content. She should be confident as she functions in the outer world. Some men take advantage of such situations. Or are not comfortable with the responsibility to be a dominant male. COMMUNICATION, loyality and more communication are definately needed! Some men would rather be submissive themselves in the bedroom and that is alright too. Most men are traditional lovers whose aim to please will unfortunately miss the mark with a submissive woman due to her particulatities. They may not be able to relate to how a submissive woman feels. Most men  believe in an equal approach to sex and would not want to have a submissive woman on her knees with her hands bound. I dont think a woman can just decide "I want to be submissive"..it is the way she chooses to experience herself sexually. Is submission a fetish ? Being sexually submissive certainly does not turn alot of women on! A submissive woman may experience great pleasure from a loving caress of appreciation for  her total submission. Another woman might be pissed the hell off if a caress is all she got after giving her man the bj of his life.












She Submits Because He has earned her submission.
 She will often have a driven, successful man.





Strong and Submissive..? Where they do that at ?  Yet
we are notoriously submissive to the wrong men, and often our submission is financial or putting up with an unfaithful man. That's No fun! If you  you have a submissive nature you can use your strength to connect with a loyal strong man whom you can submit to out of respect and desire ( and keep your finances). 
She enjoys preparing and waiting,. Unlike other women she KNOWS her MAN is coming 
so even in the suffering of waiting she is
calm and anticipating. A Good dominant  Man 
 does not let his sub down. If he does he will more than make up for it in order to restore the relationships power dynamic. Remember it is SHE who has GIVEN him the POWER!

If he  or she "messes" up there will be problems, yet this type of couple is motivated to get things back on track...the sex is too good and too hard to duplicate with another partner!  Fighting  or bickering is extra disruptive as it is out of alighnment with their  core sexual /ethical agreement to respect  eachothers limits. This couple is rare perhaps because to be a true  sexual dominant or submissive is a fetish? At any rate once they find eachother,  they both  value what they have found. Discipline must be mastered, from both partners. Yet is it discipline or simply a dedication to each others deepest desires? I dont have answers, but I do believe 
In Ma'at
Balance
and Love




Emily Imani Rose Quartz Yamineta

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