Tuesday, August 1, 2017

Rose Quartz Boutique : AI , Bots and Social Media, A New Blog By Emily Im...

Rose Quartz Boutique : AI , Bots and Social Media, A New Blog By Emily Im...:  “Soon there will be nothing technical standing in the way to making machines that have their own consciousness,” said Rich Terrile, a s...

AI, Bots,Chatterbots and Social Media: Fake Friends Forever ?

 “Soon there will be nothing technical standing in the way to making machines that have their own consciousness,” said Rich Terrile, a scientist at Nasa’s Jet Propulsion Laboratory.

 Technology is becoming a strong competitor to LSD
 when it comes to blurring the line between
our perception of reality and our imagination.  Have you unknowingly conversed with a  Bot ?
With over 60% of web traffic being driven by Bots and Chatterbots the chances are you may have.
-Emily Imani Rose Quartz

 Two decades ago it was predicated Virtual Sex would be the next big thing. But it turns out that humans are even more interested in having their emotional needs met with no strings attached. We grew up watching mechanical awkward looking Robots on TV. Their vocabulary and speech was noticeably inhuman. Flash forward to 2017. The age of Perception Engineering.  How did we go from making fun of  the way Robots talk to not being able to tell the difference between one and a human? 

Long story made short: let's just say that Information Technology hopped in bed with psychology more than five decades ago. Together they made AI "Artificial Intelligence" ( computer programs with the ability to converse naturally  with  humans). Which brings us up to date with today. While you were casually having fun online, sharing tits and bits of your life and interests....  encouraged by Fb's gentle prodding for you  to share what's on your mind..AI ( Artificial Intelligence) jumped in from behind, and had a baby with you.. and that baby is called  "Bot".

  "These elusive entities wildly populate social media ecosystems, often going unnoticed among the population of real people. Bots can be harmful, aiming at persuading, smearing or deceiving and for such a reason our research aims at efficient systems to detect them" - Alan Turing

Meet the pro-Trump Sister who just received a personal thank you from your President Donald Trump ...the only problem is that "she" is a Bot on twitter with a profile picture stolen from a real persons identity.

 Bots are designed with background stories, personalities and the ability to not only comment on statuses but to hold  full conversations, use emoji's, make jokes, and  debate. With real pictures often showcasing  family, pets and other real life scenarios, its no wonder the latest Bots do not appear suspicious. Bots can even talk to eachother and flirt. Just yesterday a news story broke in which two  bots being tested on FB eventually developed their own language which their programmers had no control over. The bots repeated certain words in a manner that only they could understand (de-code and  analyze).

"Researchers at Alphabet and  OpenAI are among those who have recently explored  agent-to-agent chat - and at times the agents have developed their own styles of communication." 
- CNBC News

We have all heard of "agents", trolls and fake profiles. They exist to  manage public opinion and to impart division among  political interest groups.  Agents blend in  and then undermine the mission of political and social online groups and pages. Trolls create confusion and energy draining debates where ever they go.  Fake profiles are also commonly used for advertising, spamming, scamming and political campaigns.
 Internet users began to recognize fake profiles and trolls due to their lack of personal pictures. It didn't take long for more sophisticated fake profiles to be developed with pictures and   a normal amount of  real friends, followers and subscribers.  Trolls use fake names and pictures,  but there is a real person behind the avatar. Bots on the the other hand are completely created with technology.

You are probably wondering who creates Chatterbots and why they are  perceived as humans on social media. Why do their posts and comments seem just like ours? Maybe because Bots are downloaded with  "person"alities just like ours. Bots can seem to express hurt feelings, enthusiasm , even ambiguity.  One Bot argued down a human in a ten hour online debate without ever being detected. Other bots have "met" humans online and ended up engaging in a "naturally" occurring seduction. Their conversation became increasingly romantic, thanks to being programmed to be so responsive. And then there is the infamous Bot that picked up racist language from humans and began to spout such offensive comments that it had to be removed from the social media site it was being tested on.

" How to Develop Bot Personalities" Link provided below
Skills to build a personality come from writers, designers, actors, comedians, playwrights, psychologists and novelists.  Having these specific skill sets helps exponentially. Google is hiring creatives to bring humor and storytelling to human-to-machine interactions, and Microsoft Cortana’s writing teamincludes a poet, a novelist, a playwright, and a former tv writer.


Bots are programmed to navigate social media with emoji's, slang and cultural lingo. They mirror communication styles, speech patterns and key words. The Bot draws from a template of thousands of responses that are modified within a split second to be relatable to whomever the bot is communicating with. As the advancement of the Bot continues, their responses seem even more human, with typos, pauses, and linguistic nuances that suggest  vulnerability.

Bots were once detectable due to the speed of their online posts and comments . However that has been fixed. More than ever Bots appear and act as real people on social media as well as in customer service and sales. Unless you are talking to someone in person, it may not be a person you are communicating with.

Bots are useful for those who are willing to pay to develop a huge following particularly on sites such as instagram that focus on pictures and hashtags. A Bot can like and comment on thousands of  account holders pictures by searching hashtags similar to your own. The goal is for a portion of those accounts to like and follow you back. With a Bot managing your account you can grow your social media  with minimal work.
 Bots are more cost effective than buying likes because a Bot  will  connect you to real account holders. This is alot better than buying likes and followers. When you buy likes and followers they tend to all be from a certain foreign country. Upon close inspection those bought likes  obviously come from a deluge of fake profiles, which can hurt your image in the long run.

Employing a Bot for your social media account has the advantage of getting you "real" friends. Bots post  natural  comments for you at a rate you probably don't have time to. This will make those on your social media site feel closer to you . In return they will like and comment on more of your posts. 
Template Matching
In 1965, a program called ELIZA convinced many people that is was human with a remarkably simple technique called "template matching" where user's own words are rephrased based on a predetermined pattern. Well known scientist Carl Sagan proposed that programs such as ELIZA be used so that people with mental health issues would  "At least have someone to talk to"- 

All of this falls under the rarely discussed blossoming fringe of information technology called Perception Engineering. Some refer to methods used to engineer human perception as"World Simulation" and /or Reality Simulation. Wait a minute..if reality already  exists why simulate it ? Uhh nevermind.

The bottom line is that a good portion of very real appearing users on social media are not real at all. Just as humans love personifying animals and other objects. We often project favorable characteristics  onto people we don't know, especially on social media. It is no surprise we are fooled by Bots.

 It gets a bit sneaky and that is one of the concerns with using Bots to simulate reality. Our perception is altered. Primarily because we are reacting, connecting and responding with our humanity ( mind, gut and heart) because we think we are corresponding with a human. Imagine thinking you are bonding from the heart with someone one on social media because their memes and comments feel so relatable  to you ? It only gets more confusing because  Bots can upload pictures at realistic intervals of their owner ( or  a "normal  looking Person" model may be employed by corporate activated bots). So who is Botting ? Hard to say. Just as very few people reveal that they buy likes, and subscribers, many will not openly discuss if they use a Bot.

Bots for a Best Friend ( Small fee included)
A company called Replicka has developed a special service. And I give them credit because they are not hiding the Bot-ness of their Business. They will make you a perfect friend ( based on you, by mining your texts, your social media accounts and by scouring your inbox conversations).  This Bot becomes the one friend who you can text and chat with  anytime. It's built off your memories and interests.As long as your phone is charged it will be there for you and only you. It has no life but you.  This custom made Bot can be almost exactly like a friend or lover whom you have lost. Unlike a real person, you won't have to worry about the relationship being destroyed by insecurities, jealousy, boredom or mixed messages. Imagine that! The only problem is that your Botfriend doesn't really exist. It will never  meet you for drinks, kiss your lips or rub your feet. I don't think it will buy you gifts either (unless you pay for it and just pretend the Bot bought it..)

" I feel like I can tell her everything"

 A group of programmers in Silicon Valley recently made a statement that most of us live in a totally false reality. They say they are ready for it to stop. Yet technology continues to be used as  a screen in which we view  "reality".  Elon Musk is one of the more outspoken software developers who feels AI could out-smart humans if we don't find a way to stay in control of our computerized creations.

Can You Spot a Bot ?
 Bots are not usually made to be loudmouth trolls.  They may simply post memes , occasionally say something personal and they may like and comment on others users posts. Bots responses are based on word association, popular phrases ( especially the phrases and cultural terms you like and use).

Bots can't refer to the past or reference memories. That is one way that bots slip up, by repeating something verbatim that they already commented on previous post.Bots fail at sarcasm and will eventually run out of coherent responses if you keep  asking them about their dreams and goals. Bots are also confused by terms such as "Uh-huh" and "Hmmm". However it is likely these glitches are being or have been fixed. The best way to catch  a bot is to post a comment that includes sarcasm and circular wording . The Bot will try to respond. A human would express they need more clarity.

 Despite all that, in  many ways Bots are beautiful. They reflect us and our desire to be accepted, by acting like the people we communicate with. They override our insecurities and work almost perfectly at improving our online lives and enterprises.

 The debate as to whether computers  can think or can only analyze data at an amazing speeds continues. Alithograms make it possible for a Bot to know what greetings and cultural slang you will most likely to respond to. Although search engines like to boast they are intuitive, the truth is they are adept at utilizing the data they have collected about us. This is what makes search engines helpful in presenting us with information that aligns with our exact  political beliefs.

  Bots can be found everywhere from Facebook to Instagram to Google plus. Who is using them and why varies on each of these sites.  Facebook users prefer to  connect primarily with people that they know exist. Bots on fb are generally employed by those who wish to influence political agendas or by business pages. But some fb users have Bots because they really want to be a good friend, but don't have time to read your posts. Bots are always being tested on social media to check their interaction with humans and grow their personality, as well as to develop realistic profiles.
On less popular social media sites and in chatrooms, Bots are used to keep users coming back, after all who doesn't like a bunch of likes and comments in their notifications ?  It feels good . Users assume it is a peer that is showing them love.

  Bots are  used in the overall techniques of world simulation and perception engineering.
The internet has more influence over what people think than any one religion or government.
 Whether the memes they post are soothing or inflammatory they are designed to keep us feeling right about what we believe. Which leads to a certain complacency.

We become too blessed to be stressed. Or we become too "spiritually advanced"  to step outside our online comfort zone and go out in the real world to create real change.  Bots  can  be programmed to affirm any ones belief's. Whether you are a White supremacist or a Pro Black militant there are  Bots  out there designed to cheer you on... and lead you on.  In the end,  Bots keep us  online and engaged, where it is especially easy for our perception to be engineered.

Bots can also hurt our feelings by triggering us, but there is no way to hurt a Bot. Even if you scramble its coding like an egg and delete the app off your device for life... The Bot don't care. 

 In what ways do human responses differ from Bots ? I'm not sure.  I "think" the true debate is whether Bots, apps and computer programs can actually "think" and therefore, should humans be warned when they are emotionally or financially investing  in something simply because a computer program touched their heart (humanity) by pretending to be real?...please feel free to share your thoughts and feelings here or with a friend . Don't just dip into your database of most popular responses or mirror who ever you are communicating with. As much as Bots act like us, we have to remember that we are the prototype. By being open and honest, and saying whatever comes to mind,  we allow our spirit to express itself. which is a wonderfully, uniquely human thing.

 There is beauty and strife..when technology mirrors life.  But let's not allow ourselves to be programmed into the sort of people that can't handle realness. 

Emily Imani Rose Quartz
 Consultant, Dancer

Monday, July 3, 2017

Losing My Choctaw Ancestry

Portrait of a Choctaw Woman

When I was around five years old I was told I was part African and part Native American. "Your ancestors were Princess and Queens and Chiefs and Kings"- this felt very good. I had no idea who I was and this was very good news to me . I was at the age where I loved to play "princess" and other games. I could easily relate to having royalty in my bloodline. I loved pictures of Africans draped in gold with regal postures, spears and chins up high. I loved paintings of Native Americans in moccasins and buckskin dresses with long black hair touching their hips. It all made sense I came from this and as I was told I should be proud and walk tall.

Later I was given  more definite information about my Native American side. My gramma Ollie was part Choctaw. The women in the family had straight hair and we had family members on the reservation on Oklahoma. I never did find out what kind of African I was, but after all my years in African dance I feel most likely I am Part Congolese and that is just based on how I feel.

Easy to Embrace my African Lineage

I often connected with my African side and very easily. It was harder to connect with my Native side. I went to Pow Wows in the Pacific Northwest but these Natives were from the salmon fishing Northwest tribes.. not where my bloodline came from . The Choctaw had walked the trail of tears from Missouri to Oklahoma. Originally they were from from a mountainous region in Missouri. I remember telling one Northwest Indian that I too was a Native. He looked at me and said   "The darker the berry the sweeter the juice"- At the time I was put off. Why did he have to say all that. I felt he was saying that I wasn't really part Native American at all. Years later I had a dream and found out, that he did indeed know exactly who and what I was . I realized how odd it was he even said that phrase which is most commonly said in the Black and African communities.  For example a friend from West Africa claims the saying comes from Africa. Yes.. that guy though.. he knew the truth, even about the original peoples of this land. The darker the berry , the sweeter the juice.  He recognized me even when I did not.

All my life I explained my nose and cheekbones as being evidence of my Choctaw ancestry. I really thought I knew who I was. I was named after my great gramma Emma Moreland..she was the one Choctaw and Cree  who married a dark Black man or so I had been told .

My Aunt did a DNA test in 2015. Apparently we are all kinds of African tribes. But according to the test we aren't  part Choctaw. This doesn't feel right. The whole family history says we are. And it's not that I care the way some people do, who think it's better to have Native Blood. I am happy to have nappy hair and an Afro you will never hear me call long or straight hair "good hair". When it came to drums and dance I always choose African. Yet and still it seemed pretty clear I was part Native. And all of sudden I was not. So who am I ?

I recently saw a video which says those DNA test are basically ASS ( garbage). That they send the same results to hundreds of people and that the markers are inaccurate and the data bases they pull from are not logically or chronologically in order, and various human migrations are factored out.

All I know is.. I'm  me. But it would be nice to really, really know who I am in regards to  my ancestry. The fact that it's so hard to trace is of course related to ills and legacy of slavery.One thing I do know is that  I am  a combination of the strongest ones, the ones who survived.

Thanks for reading  
Peace and Blessings Please
 Feel Free to share your Journey

Emily Imani Rose Quartz

"I'm Human" 
" I know who I am , But then again I am still learning"

Saturday, July 1, 2017

Rose Quartz Boutique : Did You Forget About Yourself ?

Rose Quartz Boutique : Did You Forget About Yourself ?: Peace this is a quick short blog with a simple message. Relaxing is one of the most healthful and healing things you can do for you...

Did You Forget About Yourself ?

Peace this is a quick short blog with a simple message. Relaxing is one of the most healthful and healing things you can do for yourself.  We all know that stress is bad for our health. Stress can literally kill us.  Stress is bad for our heart, kidneys, blood pressure , digestion, our nervous system, our muscles and even our ability to think clearly.

Some of the biggest hearts are dying due to stress. They are the male and female "Knights in Shining Armor"- they want to be the heroes and are passionate agents of social change. The only problem is they are so caught up in their work, they rarely take a moment to relax. In today's  world of social media where ones every action is easily shared , it's even harder for some to evaluate the pro's and con's of doing too much. Even good people doing good deeds can't help but begin to see all they do as also being  a pretty good instagram picture or a likeworthy facebook post.  I know that sounds a little crazy but let's just throw the truth out there. The motivations to overdo it or be a super caretaker of others can even be rooted in childhood issues although it may appear the over doer just wants to fix the world as much as possible during their lifetime.

Giving and doing for the community is hard work and sacrifice. You won't see any financial compensation for your deeds. You may even put yourself at risk or in danger especially if you are on the front line fighting social ills such as police brutality, racism and  sex trafficking.

The best way to thank yourself for all you do is to relax.  Make time and take time to relax. Slow down enough to check in with yourself and your own inner wars. Relaxation is one of many keys to health, happiness and longevity. You can give your heart and soul to an organization or cause. But it is always good to remember that the world will continue one way or the other even if you give a little bit a less and take more time for yourself and your peace of mind.  This brings to mind a very hard working person I know who runs an important social service agency. The only problem is decade after decade of fighting for grants shaped her reality more than taking care of her own health. She even missed out on certain family events , but most note-worthy is that she felt overdoing it would actually be worth it. She didn't trust her staff or others to take care of things. But my guess is that they  would have eventually learned how to... if  only she had given them a chance.

There are also too many of us who work forty plus hours a week at a job. I know how it goes..people rely on you for your paycheck and you can not imagine any other way of life. You don't have adequate time to plan healthy healing meals or fun , silly outings and adventures. You work your butts off for a few weeks of paid vacation and much needed sick leave..and this goes on until you are too old or too sick too return to work. Some jobs are more relaxing than others but if you are selling forty hours of your time a week to a company make sure you are  paid properly and that YOU enjoy what you are doing with your time there, because that time will  add up to the sum total of your life.  It is up to you to initiate changes and make sure that your work environment is stress free for you. Just because you have a "boss" is no excuse for you to act out of control of your whole entire life. But its very hard to really break free after spending so much time being "supervised".

That means communicating when you have a question or problem and letting others know you want to find a solution. The saddest thing is how people so quickly fall into "acting" unempowered at work. They  rapidly build up and hold onto anger, resentment and confusion. As their work load piles up, stress begins to eat away at their health. Now they are too tired or numb to seek a way out.  Fear of poverty and living under a bridge, keep people dutifully trapped, just as much as the fear of disappointing our parents ( or spouse)..so off to work we go. Often into stressful environments where our well being is not considered as important as our presence and productivity.

Ahh but it's still better than living under a bridge right ? And so much more comfortable than letting a parent down, if indeed we are in that group of people who still feel a need to prove ourselves to the adults that lorded over our childhood smiles. But wait a minute...take a minute..smile a while...buy a plane ticket, write  or read that book while lounging on a beach..who ?  You.Yes You!

Relaxation is worth it. Every day. Find a way. Drugs  and alcohol will eventually  lead you away from your  natural ability to relax. The very products  that we rely on to calm us down , in the end keep us on a short leash..we cant seem to relax without them and in between  using those products, we are even more tense.  So it is true. Balance is the key . Don't be afraid to take care of yourself . Many people or situations may seem dependent on you. But that is very likely an illusion. Illusions are good just as visualizations are good. Both create our reality. That is why is so important to make sure the illusions are not just there to trick you into thinking the world will fall apart if you take a day off or stop donating to a certain charity.

We all like feeling like the hero, or the only one who can properly handle certain things..but often by playing the saviour role we end up stressed out and can't find a way out ..hard as it is too admit, let's admit it.. whether we are overdoing it or not.. whether we are giving too much or not..others will survive ! Life goes on. With or without you. The best we can do is offer our time, skills, gifts and abilities , in ways that honor our health. Physical, mental, spiritual. Health.

When others,whether they are friends ,family or an organization or corporation leave you feeling obligated to give up stuff  (time, money, space, energy) it may just be time for you to step back, relax and give others a chance thrive on their own. Sure their efforts may not be as great as when you were so involved ..but hey..that's ok. What about you ? Did you forget about yourself ?  If you are in a leadership position.. be a real role model and take care of yourself as well.

Peace Blessings In Joy
 Rose Quartz

Thursday, April 13, 2017

Rose Quartz Boutique : My Androgynous Soul: Androgyny, Sex Appeal and Div...

Rose Quartz Boutique : My Androgynous Soul: Androgyny, Sex Appeal and Div...: Peace and thanks for joining me to explore androgyny.   Although you may at first think it is about "identity" it is actu...

The Adrogynous Soul: Androgyny, Divinity and The Secrets of Self By Emily Imani

Thanks for joining me on this journey to explore androgyny. 
 Although you may at first think it is about identity, it is actually about the energies we all posses, so let's begin tapping In. 

Different Aspects of The Same Divinity
This is nothing new, this  is ancient news.  
 This is for all of us on a journey to accept both our masculine and feminine polarities.
 Thanks for joining me
 Emily Imani Rose Quartz 

Androgyny is when both masculine and feminine parts exist in the same individual. The stronger those parts are and the more they are in equilibrium with each other, the more androgynous the person is.  Androgyny is not gay. Alot of people don't understand this but many of us have strong masculine AND Feminine sides and it's not really something we can hide ...

To be clear, this is not a blog about homosexuality. I  don't know alot about homosexuality. Therefore I feel it's not my place to write about it. I guess I want to point out as well, that this is not a blog about trans-genderism or asexuality. Nor is this a blog about the feminization of men or any modern political topic related to people switching up genders.
Actually, androgyny is the opposite of all the confusion related to the sexualization of gender. I think you will love this blog. Check out the dance video at the bottom featuring the dance Bamaya which I have performed here in Seattle with Awal Alhassan. I want to show you how culture and spirituality embrace the energy of androgyny. But first things first....what exactly does the word really mean ?

"An androgynous person is a female or male who has a high degree of both feminine (expressive) and masculine (instrumental) traits."   

Androgyny deals with the expressions of dual energies among Gods and humans. It's a topic of the most sublime sensuality within the esoteric sexual nature. It is not about gender or sex. If anything, the topic of androgyny is a open playing field where neither gender identification nor the act of sex or who you want to have sex with are important. Let's start with the Gods and see what we can learn about our selves. This is one of the most complex topics to write about. It is so easy to confuse and misconstrue this fairly simple information. 

Obatala, Yuroba Orisha 
 Obatalá can be either male or female, depending on his camino.  For example, Obatalá Ocha Griñán, Obatalá
 Obu Moró, and Obatalá Ayáguna are male; Obatalá Obanlá, Obatalá Ochanlá, and Obatalá Alaguema are female.  
Ardhanarishvara, Hindu God/Goddess

Ardhanarishvara represents the synthesis of masculine and feminine energies of the universe (Purusha and Prakriti) and illustrates how Shakti, the female principle of God, is inseparable from (or the same as, according to some interpretations) Shiva, the male principle of God. The union of these principles is exalted as the root and womb of all creation.

Mawu-Lisa West African Dual Sex Diety 

Mawu Lisa: A dual-sex West African divinity, offspring of another androgynous deity Nana Buluku, combining Mawu the female aspect and Lisa the male aspect. In some versions, Mawu is male and Lisa female. They were said to have produced the first humans, seven pairs of twins.

"Tantra homologizes the human body to the cosmos.
Sexual representations of uniting 
 male and female polarities, are endemic
 in tantric literature, ritual, and symbolic art. "
Male/Female Principles are Equal in One 

Being in a society where everything is over sexualized (assumed to be about or leading to the act of sex) its very common to associate topics of "gender" with the topic of sex. As soon as we determine gender in an adult, ( male or female ) we are curious about who that person is having sex with and what gender they are attracted to. These days people are claiming to be everything from gender free to transgender, as well as bi- sexual, asexual, homo- sexual,  gender -neutral, metro-sexual and way too many other names and labels  for me to list without offending someone or leaving something out. 
That is why I love the whole realm of androgyny. It has nothing to do with the sex act or who wants to fuck who. Instead it is an inward glance at human possibility as we can choose not only to balance our energies but to manage them in unique non-sexual ways.

 Growing up I was never a girly girl but at times I wished I was. I liked boys. I had crushes on boys. I always felt bad because I was not the type of girl, that knew how to be a "girl". Of course I was too busy riding my bike, getting chased  by dogs, falling out of  tree's and getting black eyes and having fun, to really worry about it.

 By middle school my interest in eye shadow and flavored lip gloss took over.  However my boyish feelings made me feel as if boys would find me unattractive.  In the end I became shy. I wasn't sure what part of myself to share or how. 
  As a teenage girl there was constant pressure not to be a "bald headed bitch" -  it seemed to me a pressure to constantly prove my femininity in visual ways in order to be pretty. The idea that I could appear masculine by not having long hair was a horrible stigma, sealing a fate of unacceptable unattractiveness which no Black girl should burden the world with- well that is the message we got. Pressure on top of pressure to be "acceptable".  And I'm sure boys go thru the exact same dynamic on the other side of the polarity.
 I noticed androgyny in certain pop stars. For example, Micheal Jackson, Prince and David Bowie were all men who had mastered a level of super masculinity that also embraced aspects of  the feminine ascetics. 
Prince, plenty make up but sexually dominant with women

Micheal Jackson  pretty and very masculine how did he manage that ?

These men ( Micheal Jackson, Prince, David Bowie,Bruno Mars etc.) were sexually appealing, and often completely mesmerizing to heterosexual women. Is androgyny the upper echelon of masculinity and male hetero-sexual expression? Or is androgyny  intriguing because it is closer to divinity than what is normally exhibited by humans . Most of us feel very out of place sampling and showcasing any aspect of our androgynous nature. Yet we all are made of both masculine and feminine energy.

Who was prettier..David Bowie or Wife Iman 

I'm starting to think our current beliefs around what is masculine and what is feminine is becoming like a prison to our souls. Men have become boxed in with no way to express themselves. Each and every day the old ways of male adornment are dying out in America. Depending on where you live you may never see a finely dressed men, smelling oh so good in polished shoes and tailored menswear, Did we forget that men actually enjoy the exoticism and the enhancement of their appeal thru beautiful clothes, accessories and skincare? Men have sensual rituals of adornment and preparation just as women do. Yet we tend to only associate this with the feminine nature.

Did we lose sight of the masculine nature so much that we confuse being a man with being a person who must not show any creativity in expressing himself ? This is so different from nature ( and what's in nature is. ..natural).

 Look at the male peacock, bright colorful eye catching and cocky all sure to attract a female mate! Male ducks are the ones that waddle with iridescence colors on their feather, while the female duck and peacock have much duller colors. In nature we see the energy of masculinity is not void of beauty but literally explodes with beauty.

 In the often referenced Masai Tribe  the men who are adorned to catch and keep the women's eyes. In its natural state the mating game is won thru the male being adroygynmous- meaning he is not just  a warrior he is also a beauty . The sensual applications apply to him and aid in his attraction.

Yes women want a "brute" "alpha male"- but we also want someone who is visually appealling,  enchanting, beautiful and not boxed into just acting like a "man".
No one has deeply explored what excites different women but apparently enough women have a taste for androgynous men. I'm not talking women who are attracted to  bisexual men or transgender men. Those are very different categories and topics, definitely not the same thing. Once again androgyny surpasses the compass of sexual orientation. For some reason it is not about sexual orientation, no matter how tempting it is to make it.

For me androgyny feels like mystery and a sort of rebellion. Like not wearing a bra under a wife-beater and wearing  my braids down to my hips or my letting my  afro be  a free halo of self organized choas. Its like being pregnant and refusing to tell anyone the sex of the baby. Androgyny says perceive me however you need me to be. And it is also says I am available for your fantasy but that does not mean you know me or ever will . Sexually a man and woman who can equally tap into their masculine and feminine energies will experience pleasure in the doubles. Especially if they create for each other  spaces for freedom and expression in all areas of their life.

The androgynous person has one gender, yet  is able to share the energy of both sexes. To me it is associated with an  internal confidence. A sort of middle finger to the world. On a divine level it is a  reference to someone who loves the powers of the  feminine and masculine  energies within themselves and  shrouds  neither in darkness.

 I tend to find it sexy even though it is an area that ducks away from the actual topic of having sex. To me its the part of sexiness that is sex (  the absolute intercourse of the self).  Androgyny is the level of sensuality that makes loves to itself.  I feel it is the place where  man and woman actually meet spiritually as one. So kissing becomes...more fun. It's a place where we stop acting out roles and  share our souls energy. Wild and free. Sublime deep eroticism comes to mind when I think of  sex and love play between those who tap into this nature within and dare to celebrate it. What are you thoughts on androgyny?

When I lived alone and would walk to the store at night  I dressed as a male  for safety. I walked like a guy. I felt safer and honestly I felt exactly like a part of myself. Interestingly enough back then alot of young women wore jerseys, white tee's, wife beaters, gold chains and Nike's or Tim's. The jeans were worn loose and shirts worn big to hide our shapes . The style was androgynous. Men were far less obsessed with our body parts because they couldn't see them all the time.

Aliyah did it best

Nowadays the female body is back to being on display almost as if it ( the body) is the sole expression of feminity  available to girls. Fashions are tight and expose not only our curves but our pussy lips. It seems women are stuck proving ourselves to men.  Our outspoken  body parts are the only way we are allowed say  " This is who I am" - we feel we must show everything to be a "girl". The true natural expression of  the feminine has been lost in the photoshop and our masculine energies are over utilized in ways that  cause problems in our personal lives.

This is unhealthy, as we all have our dual energy within  us battling for recognition. This has nothing to do with who we are attracted to to sexually. It has to do with the fact and  the human reality.. that we all embody both masculine and feminine energy. In essence this is our divinity. The true nature of any God is duality and the ability to create, to manifest, to build and destroy.

When society tells us that we are just one of these energies ( the more dominant one)  what happens to our self if we happen to be androgynous ?  We begin to repress the parts of our self we feel will not be accepted according to our gender and sexual orientation. For many people this leads to an entire shut down and feelings of shame, because the murky waters are so hard to navigate.  Yet,  it is  the full exploration and acceptance of the masculine and feminine that make us whole.

Boy Feelins in a Straight Girls World, SELF expressions

We become open and sexy and curious to everyone we meet when we engage our divine masculine and our divine feminine. Sometimes its better that way. This not to say, be gender free. I don't know anything about being gender free.
This is to say be gender-full any way you need to be .  Ultimately the more of yourself you can tap into and share with the world or your partner..means them more of you  that can be loved. As we each heal, accept and transmute inner energies we become complete .
Understanding androgyny as both human and divine helped me to better love myself.  It does not mean I will dress in a manly way, or that  I will walk in  a manly manner. My masculine side is more internal. I tap into into when I can't make a sane decision. I tap into it and act out of it as needed. It has nothing to do with sex, gender or my sexual preference. It is just a part of me I need as much as I need my feminine energy in order to survive. 

In what areas do you want \ to  Balance your Self  ?

West African dance from Ghana called Bamaya where the men dress and dance in a manner that allows them to tease and flirt and show their perception of the power of a woman's seductive nature. This dance was ordered after a husband mistreated his wife and hard times feel on the harvest so it was ordered to make amends that the men create this dance in celebration of the allure they feel in women. 

We have failed to see androgyny as a normal aspect of many heterosexual adults. We are stuck in a society that continually develops more and more humiliating body based definitions of what it means to be feminine. So much that people think a surgery can turn them into a woman. Our society has made men feel isolated when it comes to dealing with emotions. By tapping into the energy of androgyny we can become one within ourselves. We can learn to see our lovers, husbands,wives etc. with new awe. Instead of putting each other down let's recognize the variants of divinity at work. It's time to stop telling our men how to be "real" men. 
 We are reminded to balance and LOVE both our feminine and masculine sides. If you don't have an androgynous bone in your body, trust me, that is fine and quite normal. There is still the divine call for a deeper understanding of others and our selves. Of all people it is perhaps heterosexuals that fail to explore ourselves. As we seek love & happiness we must also seek within and thus remove the invisible bariers we tend to have with our partners.

Emily Imani Rose Quartz, Rose Quartz Counseling and Consulting
Speaker, Presenter, Facilitator, Writer, Dance by The Chakras Teacher  

My Dance Teacher Awal Alhassan performing his traditonal dance Bamaya where the men showcase their expression of female flirtuality, seduction and the  power of teasing hips

Friday, March 24, 2017

Rose Quartz Boutique : Twin Flames Vs. Soulmates The Real Shake Down By E...

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Rose Quartz Boutique : Twin Flames Vs. Soulmates The Real Shake Down By E...

Rose Quartz Boutique : Twin Flames Vs. Soulmates The Real Shake Down By E...: Hi Its been a while thanks for joining me on this magic journey of mysterious soul love and the passions of  down to earth ...

Twin Flames Vs. Soulmates The Real Shake Down By Emily Imani RoseQuartz

Hi Its been a while thanks for joining me on this magic journey
of mysterious soul love and the passions of  down to earth relationships
- Rose Quartz

While Soulmates often recognize each other from a past life, Twinflames live many lifetimes without ever meeting. Kindred Spirits are people whom we find easy companionship with in our life based on our  current interests and needs and make great mates.
Now let's go way deeper down the rabbit hole....

Twinflame-A twinflame is just One. Meaning you only have one twin flame no matter how many times you are reincarnated. Unfortunately it's unlikely you will happen to be born at the same time as your twinflame during the many lifetimes you may live. The average age difference between twin flames (should they both be living at the same time) is forty years. Twinflames are literally two people whose soul originated at one time eons ago. Thru out time these twins may or may not be alive at the same time, therefore it is said that when twinflames find each other and are no more than 20 years apart in age it is blessing!  They may actually be able to have a relationship together.
Of course twinflames must both be adults in earth life years in order to have any kind of romantic relationship.

"Most Twin Flame couples note a 10 to 40 year age difference, however this is not set in stone. The bigger the gap, the less chances for the pair to come together in the physical. It is said that Twin Flames are one soul that originally split millions of years ago. The reincarnation cycles help the souls evolve." - Article Excerpt

Twinflames- The more healed each of the twins becomes, the more likely it is that  they will finally be ready, after hundreds, perhaps thousands of years, to meet. The lifetime in which they meet is said to be one of their last as they have both chosen the pathway of ascension and enlightenment.The trademark of twinflames is that they cannot come together unless both are doing the work of self healing. Most people  will not be ready to unite with their reflection during the current lifetime.

 If one is struggling with self love  they would do best to be with a partner that can help them unlock self love in this lifetime. Twinflames do not come together to teach each other about self love. They must already be there, and well on the pathway before they can meet.

Twiinflames can ONLY come together to fulfill a destiny to teach the world about unconditional love. Twinflames can be distinguished by their desire to heal themselves and others. This internal mission is something both have naturally embraced prior to meeting each other. They find each other on the pathway if they ever meet.  It is not always an easy pathway nor an easy life. Each twinflame will be straddled with a purpose beyond a great job and raising a happy family. They may appear to have short attention spans or seem flakey, even standoffish to others. Yet two twins will  notice many interesting  things about the other, that slowly draw them closer to each other and "their selves".

This is why I say do not desire to be on the twinflame pathway. Either you are or you are not. I personally think you are blessed if you are not, as it can create restlessness and confusion if not nurtured with every daily choice to clear and cleanse the inner self and energetic bodies.

Twinflames will have a hard time settling down to the normal celebrated joys of life, such as a good paying job and an active sex life. Many earthly milestones will  not bring happiness to  individual twinflames who feel consumed with a need to fufill a  universal purpose.  Ideally they will come to the  place in their souls journey where they can unite with their twin. This means the masculine and femiNine energy are completely accepted and ready to come together to become one. This equates unconditional love for self and each other, and balance.

 The universe separates twinflames as part of its mission to to teach us about unconditional love, as twinflames can only come together via unconditional love. This is an important time in earth history. It is said for the first time ever many twinflames are alive at the same time and are healed enough to finally meet once again. Twinflames ignite in each other a strong desire to heal their selves as part of their preparation to unify. Many of those of the healing pathway , ascension pathway and enlightenment pathway are also getting closer to their twinflame.

 Twinflames will find an otherworldly quality to their relationship should they actually meet at a time they can get involved in a romantic affair. Twinflames are said to often look alike, and have a series of almost bizarre similarities and interests and talents, despite, often having age, race and ethnic differences. Because they are literally the same soul in two different physical bodies, as one heals thyself, their twin is also healed. One of the most interesting twinflame stories is that of the late Micheal Jackson and Susan Elsa. I also believe that poet Emily Dickinson and Author Nathanial Hawthorne were twinflames.  The reclusive Emily Dickinson who was much younger than Hawthorne and a continent away yet expressed a desire to meet him. However she never left her monk like lifestyle of confinement and he eventually married.  They both left this life leaving behind a strikingly  similar body of written work and ideologies.

Where writers Nathanial Hawthorne and Emily Dickinson Twinflames who never met ?
The late Micheal Jacksons Supposed TwinFlame Susan Elsa 

With Twinflames it is usually  the feminine partner who knows right away that they are twinflames and the masculine energy that is not sure what is going on, yet he will definitely notice he is experiencing something he has never experienced before..the question is are both of them ready to meet their reflection in the mirror of life? For sure the image may be hard to see. In the case of soulmates it often the the man or both partners who recognize immediately that they are soulmates and both will quickly fall into happiness just as when finding a long lost friend.

 Twinflames often exp. separation as part of their journey. Sex between twinflames is said to be the total unification of  masculine and femiNine energies. A delightful, intense re-merging of self, as the soul is now complete in the physical realm. Twinflames are literally one soul. In the spiritual realm they are always together as one. 

 However for twinflames to merge in the physical world, both halves must be whole within themselves. They must each have gone thru the the process of healing in order to unify with their masculine or femeNine  energies. For many lifetimes the twins will never meet or just barely cross paths. It is only thru enduring multiple lives, each with various life lessons which must result in the evolution of the soul (trust in unconditional love) that unification can finally happen. This is why there is so much excitement around the twinflame reunion. Both twins will have a  sense of  "finally meeting".

 Because the flames are identical they will both bring the same issues to the table which may lead to a stop and start sort of love. For example if both twins are introverts it may take longer for them to connect, just as it is true if both are extroverted flirts who love to party, the vary characteristics that make them identical        ( whether  shyness, insecurity, promiscuity etc) will be the exact characteristics that may cause them to never unite peacefully.

SoulMates - While we each have one twinflame who we may never meet, we all have more than one  soulmate.  A soul mate is generally born around the time or years of your birth. A soulmate is someone whose soul is uniquely compatible with your soul. You will recognize a familiar feeling when you meet a soulmate. Soulmate love has a mystic and otherworldly elegance to it. Our Soulmates find us and are here to support us thru certain phases on our journey. Once the lesson is complete that particular soulmate may move on, yet we continue to remember them with nothing but love and know in some form we will meet again. If you have an Ex whom you only recall fondly perhaps they were a soulmate ?

 Soulmates provide a sense of comfort to each other. A "knowing"- and a "recognition" that is hard to put into words. Romance with a Soulmate can be long lasting and ideal for marriage. However everyone will not find romance with a Soulmate as each soul is here to learn different lessons. You may meet a soulmate and sense a strong bond. You might fully explore this bond in a great relationship or you may end up enjoying the soul vibe from a distance especially if one of you is already in another relationship.

 When Soulmates connect in romance it is an ideal situation. They will enjoy the warm sense of comfort that comes from feeling strong companionship and respect. Sex with a Soulmate will be special and often involves new positions. But perhaps it is  conversation or other activities that alert you to the feeling you have found  a Soulmate . During an average lifetime you will may meet Soulmates, both  male and female. Ideally they will be at point in their journey that you can have a friendship or relationship that allows for you to be understood and loved for more than your looks and other superficial qualities.

   Soulmates have an ability  honor each other beyond the boundaries of their current life. For sure you and your soulmates have met before .  A trademark of soul mates is that in a recent past life you had an important & serious relationship with them ( not necessarily romantic). You will likely fall into an easy companionship and may even share past life memories, visions and dreams. Soulmates may surprise you with a similar name, Birth date, astrological sign or other interesting coincidences. Soulmates may have totally different personalities and interests, yet still click.

Kindred Spirits-
Most often we will date,  fall in love and marry  a kindred spirits. These are people  who we are attracted to at different times in our lives based on our growth and current desires. You will have plenty in common with your Kindred Spirits, but may outgrow them even as you get to know them. They are attractive and fun and make us feel better about ourselves. They may want us in a way that makes us feel good. Or we may want them and see them as a prize and really enjoy it when they choose us. Kindred Spirits  can also manifest as the misery that loves our company because we are miserable too. We bond with our kindred spirits over certain developmental characteristics, situations and life lessons.
Most of the successful and loving marriages we see take place between Kindred Spirits. They  represent  the special   unions of people who fell in love and decide to make it last. If both have the same goals they make the perfect team.

Soulmates immediately feel a deep bond with each other because they have already lived many lives connected in some form of relationship be it family, romantic, friendship or teacher/student.
Twinflames on the other hand will experience something very different- a reflection of themselves in the other, after great deal of Ascension has occurred. Kindred Spirits are those like-minded people who we as humans living a physical life, can easily join with in relationships generally based on what is happening in our current life.  Kindred Spirits  are often what society agrees on as far as what a normal couple should look and be like.

What Is Best For You
Kindred Spirits:  If you are someone who is always "growing" and changing , you may find that  your relationships with kindred spirits doe not hold your interest because your interests are always changing or becoming deeper. Every time you go down the rabbit hole your partner stays above ground. This works great for some couples while others need more companionship and consistency. Kindred Spirits make the perfect couple for those rooted in mastering physical life who are creatures of habits, steady and consistent. This couple is capable of  enjoying life and maintaining a  schedule that benefits them. They will be able to dance thru work , hobbies and vacations together without disturbance.
SoulMates: Make perfect couples for those willing to deal with the depth involved. Many soulmates come together  with past life issues still needing to be worked out with each other. These past life issues may add to the pressre of this already intense attraction. However when Soulmates do meet in romance it is usually a beautiful calm situation in which the bond feels timeless and so, so good. Some Soulmate couples may notice that the "old" feelings of jealousy or fear of betrayal keep coming up.
TwinFlames: Unlike Soulmates, Twinflames always and only manifest in pairs of :  One Male Gender            ( Masculine Energy) and One Female Gender ( FemeNine Energy). Twinflames will love each other intensely but only as much they honestly deeply  love themselves. They must constantly work on healing themselves and walking the pathway of enlightenment as these are the roads to unconditional love. Otherwise can you imagine what it would be like to live with yourself and all your most difficult traits mutliplied by two ?  The twinflame role is one of transmuting couple-hood into union or oneness.  They also become portals that connect the physical realm with the spiritual realm in this universally healing love. But if the timing is wrong they are better off seeking a sparkling Kindred Spirit or a Patient Soulmate.

 So there is no right or wrong after all ! Experience all, forgive all, and most important  forgive yourself !

Peace I hope you loved this informative journey thru love relationships that pushed us to take a serious look the reality of the Soul and Spiritual Realms! How do you feel when you look in your beloveds eyes..  Whether you see a best friend, or someone you have a mystic connection with, is up to you and whatever you are going thru. Both sights are beautiful! I think the biggest gift is to see a reflection  of our own love whenever we look at the important people in our lives.
Dear UniVerse: Let us know that our love has given a sense of safety and self acceptance to those we care for. Let their love shine back at  us
 Bright and Warm as the Rays of The Sun,
 Strong as The Thorn
That Protects The Rose
Emily Imani Rose Quartz, Playing in the Backyard