Sunday, October 15, 2017

Overwhelmed to Inner Peace, Fear of Being Yourself in a Cold World

These days its way too easy to be overwhelmed. Notice I did not say to "feel" overwhelmed. Being overwhelmed is  different. You may not even feel it at all as you appear, even to yourself, to be gliding thru the day with a mutable facial expression. A smile here where needed, a blank look as soon as you turn the corner, a growling frown when a weaker more annoying person appears on the horizon. The minute someone asks you how you are, the inner robot spurts out "Fine!" then tosses the question back as if in retribution.."And how are you ? "..

In an economically fragile time more people than not are forced into an unspoken competition. The scoreboard is recorded on social media. Events, name dropping,  charitable acts are tallied up. Likeable, lovable and wow type ratings are given for images of you, which you have chosen out of ten less flattering pictures. Your inbox floods with people whom you have nothing much to say. Emojis become your best friend. Oh what a life. How in the hell can I get out ?

Sitting near a pine tree in my front yard, dressed in a few layers but warming up in a particularly hot beaming October sun..I struggle to focus on my work. In the corner of my laptop little notifications pop up. My curiosity drifts's only one click. We all have such issues, meanwhile we are facing our fears of homelessness and failure. We are told to never give up on our dreams. So here under all the layers I ask , What is my dream ?

 I have been thinking alot about images and my image being an outward manifestation of my imagination and spirit. I been called a sensualista for quite a while. My digital footprint is maybe too expository. I dance alot. I show my womanhood and sensuality as being natural, awkward and unstaged, soft, strong , vital and healthy. Political and intellectual. And I know for a fact that at times this has blocked me from getting a job. My digital footprint is more or less my real footprints, barefoot and where I been, how I dance, what I think. It's not entirely embraced by a society that loves to buy and sell sex..but hates to see sensuality without whoredom. 

I close my eyes and take deep breathes. One grey cat, then a brownish one slowly creep past testing the waters of my human form, trustworthy but still testing. I breathe and listen to birds. I here a spurring noise of wings fluttering by. I try to ignore the voices of kids on the block. I just wanna hear the birds. I wish I was somewhere hotter in less clothes. That the breeze was of saltwater mist cooling my face. I create in my minds inner space, a different state of mind. I want to be a good woman, a good "girlfriend",  a great mother and  everything else I could possibly be. My standards leave no room for life. Maybe we are pushed too hard to push ourselves too hard into a whirl of  over thinking, overdoing and  non satisfaction.

The remedy ? Go be where you love, Go be with who you love. It might just be you is all you need, everything else is icing on the cake so choose the flavor and consistency that adds to it , but does not overwhelm the taste of you.

I release the need to be more than what I am. I release the need to over think my success/ I accept life as it is. What I do naturally is my calling. 

Peace and Blessings From Rose Quartz

Emily Imani Rose Quartz

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

Rose Quartz Boutique : Is Dove Soap Ad Really Racist ? The Dirty Truth by...

Rose Quartz Boutique : Is Dove Soap Ad Really Racist ? The Dirty Truth by...: We have whites still asking us if we wash our hair and other ridiculous questions. And in all honest truth many whites have admitted to us ...

Is The Dove Soap Ad Really Racist ? New From Rose Quartz

Rose Quartz 

We have whites still asking us if we wash our hair and other ridiculous questions. And in all honest truth many whites have admitted to us in secret how much they admire our skin and wish they had it. So why the public disrespect ? Or are we Over-Reacting 
- Rose Quartz

This is a brief blog to address the Dove Soap Ad in which a Black Model Turns White as she peels off a brown t- shirt and brown face . The Black Model involved says the photo shoot involved a multi racial group of models "turning into each other" to show that all women have skin problems and deserve to be moisturized. However the print add has struck many as offensive. It seems similiar to a laundry detergent add that applied the same sort of racial transformation to speak on the topic of going from "dirty to clean" and from  "soiled to fresh". The Dove ad also seems to suggest an upgrade from "dry to soft skin".  Also worrisome is Dove has a product which states it is for "Normal to Dark Skin"....wait Dark Skin not normal skin ?

   Dark skinned people are the majority on this earth. We are also a massive consumer group many of whom buy drain-clogging, goopy, greasy "body washes" which are mostly an application of synthetic perfume that one slathers on and rinses off in the shower to acquire a smell better than they had before.

I hope that most of us are wise enough to not put chemical based store bought products on our skin. That is not healthy for anybody. While mainstream companies have begun to utilize shea butter as a moisturizer, our hope is that people will choose to purchase their Shea butter from community vendors who purchase directly from African Vendors to get the purist products. Moist skin ? No thanks. How about clean shining , smooth, radiant brown and dark skin that holds light and captures the  life giving rays of the sun , embraced by natural beauty ? 

Everyone deserves to feels beautiful. Constantly being portrayed as the Before picture is absurd.
Doves Ongoing Theme as it Appears To Suggest
Dry Pre-Washed= Dark Skin, Are We Misunderstanding ?

We think this ad is potentially harmful to some people self esteem, In some cases here in America and abroad, people with dark skin are made to feel inferior, despite often speaking multiple languages, and having a varitey of amazing skills and a historical legacy of teaching everything from superior agricultural practices to architecture and medicine and healing to other lighter skinned people. This add can hurt those who suffer at the hands of society impressing further on them that dark skin is unsavory. This blog is quick reminder of who taught who to bathe. It may seem petty to even respond to Dove but it is not a waste of time to clear up the confusion. Myself and many other darkskinned people have had to deal with the silliness of whites asking us if our dark was dirt. We have whites still asking us if we wash our hair and other ridiculous questions. And in all honest truth many whites have admitted to us in secret how much they admire our skin and wish they had it. So why the public disrespect ?

Detergent Ad in which a Black Man Gets Pushed in a Washer
and Comes out a Lighter Skin

Dove is Consistant With Illustrating Dry/ Bad  as being Darker Shade
& Clean/Moist Skin=White

A Brief Peek into History Tells Us  That The History Of Racism Stinks 
( No one should be making anyone feel bad due to race or skin color) 

" In Medieval Europe members of the upper classes, on the other hand, rather than completely forgo bathing, tended to cut down their full body bathing habits down to around a few times per year, striking a balance between risk of acquiring a disease from the bath vs. body stench"

 The citizens of Williamsburg would have smelled pretty ripe, too. Even the dandified Tory would have struck modern nostrils as noticeably aromatic. It's safe to assume that we would have found the entire Old Dominion-in fact, all thirteen colonies-afflicted with B.O. And since everyone stank, no one noticed it or recorded it for history. Sensitive souls might bury their faces in nosegays or scented hankies when a long-unwashed regiment tramped past, but most of our forebears remained as blissfully unaware of their stench as we are of the growing foulness of our air.
Ablutions were skimpy in those days. A little dab here and there with a damp cloth would do you, even in the fashionable capital of Virginia. 

Edwards Park's article "The British in Williamsburg" appeared in the Autumn 1995 issue of this journal.

 "Most black hair does not produce its own oils... which is why they should not wash their hair as often and need proper moisturizers. white people on the other hand produce lots of oil which needs to be washed out often to keep it looking clean." - White Mother of a Biracial Daughter

"The Greeks were the first civilized Europeans who were primarily civilized by the Black Africans of the Nile Valley. The Greeks passed on this acquired culture to the Romans who ultimately lost it, thus initiating the dark ages that lasted for 500 years. Civilization was again restored to Europe when another group of Black Africans, The Moors, brought the Dark Ages to an end.  During the dark ages in Christian Europe, the Moors had built more than 300 public baths throughout its 21 suburbs, also introducing Spain to underwear and bathing with soap, at a time when taking a bath was thought to be a diabolical practice to be shunned by all good Christians, and cleanliness was regarded as a sin. Human waste was simply thrown into the streets because there were no bathrooms available."
-Norman McCleary, Internationl Historian

"For some lower class citizens, particularly men, this resulted in them largely forgoing bathing whenever possible.  During this time, people tended to restrict their hygienic arrangements to just washing hands, parts of the face, and rinsing their mouths. Washing one’s entire face was thought to be dangerous as it was believed to cause catarrh and weaken the eyesight, so even this was infrequent."

Hmmm.. well we are not going to give a conclusive analysis of the dove soap ad. But ahh I think I smell a rat.

Tuesday, October 3, 2017

Autumn Cravings by Rose Quartz

If you have a craving for something you should explore it, even if it is something huge, like a new way of living-  Rose Quartz

A temptation may not be a good thing  A temptation plays on weakness, bad timing, poor planning and lack of discipline. 

But a craving really seriously comes from within. As you think about what you are craving you do not need to rush out and get it. If you want a pizza that really satisfies, it might be worth flying to Chi-Town to get a real deep dish pizza. Yumm. Craving. Chase it. You won't find that  flavor  in the freezer section. Go where your craving takes you. Be specific.

Exploring a craving may lead you to plan the perfect rendezvous. It gives you time to think twice, about who and what is really worth your time.

How much do you want to enjoy and slowly savor what you are craving ?

Do you crave it as a sweet temporary pleasure or is your craving really a passion worth a permanent place in your life ?  Do you believe you are  ready to always have what you crave nearby ? Sometimes we don't trust ourselves with what we desire. Especially happiness. But if you stop thinking about it you will notice that happiness really likes your company.

The other day I caught myself craving pumkim stew. Something I never had before but the concept seemed right for a September night. I googled images and recipes and thought uhmm yes, that does look good. I never did get around to cooking it though. Today I craved tacos with jamaican jerk seasoned ground beef on corn tortillas with sharp cheddar, green onions, salsa.. and's cooking now. And from what I just sampled they are goin to be delicious.

Pumpkin Stew..maybe..some other time

We crave. Excitement. Peace of Mind. Chaos. Quiet. We want it all, at different times.  Obtaining doesn't have to be physical. Sometimes it's just a feeling we associate with  the magic of the changing seasons. Sometimes it's taste we forgot about or a beach we have never been. Giving into a craving can be done without rush . Think about what you are craving. Talk about what you are craving.  Create a plan. Make things happen either in the physical or imaginal. 

For many it's the beginning of a long desert filled holiday season, but who really wants to put on an extra fifteen pounds if it will make you feel bad about yourself.  You may discover that cravings go beyond food and sex.   It is ok to crave feeling light and skip the giblet gravy, piles of mashed potatoes and pies. Unless that's what you really been craving. Then go ahead. 

 It's ok to be an adult who loves a snuggly teddy bear, a good cigar or whatever. Indulge.  Desire itself is an amazing manifest of the mind. Make choices you can really surrender to.. but only if that sounds good to you. 

Enjoy. Peace and  Blessings

Emily Imani Rose Quartz
Seattle Based Alternative Healing
Counselor, Consultant, Presenter, Workshop Leader
Author of An Environment For Ecstasy The Total
Cultural Guide To Getting and Giving Better Pleasure

Thursday, September 28, 2017

His n Her Perspectives: How Has The Opposite Sex Helped You Identify Your Masculine or Feminine Traits ?

What if we stopped believing everything we have been told  and started to experience life as our teacher with no preconceived notions ?
 Rose Quartz

Once I let go of the fairy tales it became clear to me that feminine traits have nothing to do with weakness just as masculine traits do not determine strength. The difference between masculine and feminine traits is mostly in how we process and respond emotionally and expressively. These opposite traits were never meant to compete or clash with each other but to create a completeness.  This blog is dedicated to exploring how the opposite sex helps each of identify our masculine and feminine traits. This topic took developed into slightly erotic space because it's as  natural as yin and yang.

His Perspective by Trai

"Supreme harmony is the principal that holds what we call “the universe” in harmony. I would say balance, but balance is immovable and there is no life if nothing is moving" -Trai

Harmony :The science of the structure of relation : a pleasing arrangement
 of parts :congruence :agreementaccord :internal calm
tranquility an interweaving of different accounts into a single narrative
A partner, relative, or friend, etc. has many aspects about themselves that make up who they are. Who they are, can help us identify characteristics about ourselves in countless ways. These characteristics may pertain to our opposite’s sides (e.g. masculine, and feminine traits).
These traits are our logical, and feeling aspects, and how we notice these traits in others.  It does not necessarily have to be someone close, or someone you know, or even like. 

When you notice a certain attribute about someone it has an appeal to the observer. It can be their speech, posture, sensitivity. 

As a man I can say alot of  my traits that I gained in my younger days, are from my mother. As far as being more emotionally reactive to situations instead of balancing it out with it a more logical approach. Or is it something else that’s unnoticed?" 

 When I came up with the topic How has the opposite sex helped you identify traits about yourself whether it be masculine, or feminine?  I was asking myself the questions.
Who had the influence that helped you identify these traits, and how they come about?

Well, after much  needed quality time with my partner, it made sense to me that while being together with her,  I felt more in place. In other words I felt more like I was adjusting to my role as a male. Without feeling like I had to be my own emotional support system as well as being my logically guided support system, plus other factors all in one. 

I was able to allow myself to let my partner be the woman for me, instead of me being the woman for me, and vice versa.

Letting your partner take back that character in either category of masculine or feminine, can place them “in their power” where they work their suitable placement by default. In summary, letting your partner be the man or woman they are supposed to be can free you from feeling like you have to play the identity of both.

Her Perspective by RoseQuartz
Sometimes I notice I am not feeling my feminine nature as much as I am, when I am in the  presence of a man. It seems without being physically close to a man I often most feel the mental parts of myself which includes all my so called masculine characteristics..logical, aggressive, organizing and going overboard at times with no sign of emotional softness.  Problem solving and getting to the point of things is important. As mother parenting by myself, I have do more than  the feminine role of nurturing or I think my household will fall apart.  Of course I feel more feminine in my free time, but it doesn't compare to what happens when near to a man.

 For some reason being around a man awakens my feminine mystique, which in itself a form of vulnerability. I suddenly realize my body is a lush and sexy, even if my abs are not a six pack. I notice that parts of my body and mind are incredibly attractive to a man, simply because I have curves, both mental and physical where he has none.

When I am around the opposite sex and I'm getting uncomfortable, my first instinct is to hide my femininity and shift into a more masculine posture.  

But if I'm with a man (my partner) whom I feel safe with, I can let my feminine nature breathe. It's a relief to just be me.  My femininity is soft and strong. It's not passive. It's an  ever changing mix of tender and fierce. Something a man will see as worthy of submitting to, even as he enjoys his dominance.  
The True Emergence of Self, merging with The One
Whose Dominant Traits are the Opposite of Mine

Being in close proximity with  the man I admire, allows me to enjoy his masculine traits as they appear in a man, not just as an abstract concept within myself. 
I enjoy letting him use his energy, his "cocky" walk, and his aloof facial expressions to lead our way thru crowds. Because he has no desire to meet the needs of random people on the street, he creates a protective barrier around us.  
 Some women will say this is "giving away of power" is old fashioned, but I disagree. I know my strength and power. Part of my strength is relinquishing some of my "power" in order to experience myself in full bloom, without shame,  like the pungent scent of an unpicked rose on a humid afternoon. 
The opposite sex  allows a true revelation of self . Which is one of the sexiest  strip teases ever. 

Final Thoughts:
 The opposite sex reveals to me what I am not, and thru that I begin to fall deeper in love with what I am.  Modern society suggest  men are acting out of their feminine side more and more due to lack of male role models. Our young men pick up their single moms ways of  dealing with stuff, which  denies them a chance to tap into their dormant dominant traits. Similarly girls & women are acting out more of their masculine traits in their struggles for survival with no man around. The end result is that  many of us bring too much of the same dish to the table when it comes to our romantic relationships. Sort of like a poorly planned potluck.

Healing Moments
Taking the time to recognize and relish how the opposite sex helps you identify your masculine and/or feminine traits is great way to fall back into your natural self while providing balance.
 relief and healing to your partner.

Peace and Blessings From Rose Quartz 
Thanks For Joining Us,Thanks For The Great Topic Trai, yami