Saturday, November 18, 2017

Americas Shame: Grabbers and Gropers

 These guys could care less about sex . They love to grope, to shame, to overpower..they are the true example of weakness in human flesh.

Joe Biden 

Every day I voyeur onto to social media I see the many disturbing words and comments from men such as Donald Trump. I realize sadly that I spent my whole life under the spell of  men who were lewd . For example as a kid I vaguely remember watching Johnny Carson on a show called Late Night America. He interviewed stars and always made himself very disgusting and lewd. He was always making jokes and leering at young women's breasts and being very unpleasantly sexually flirtatious ( I may be mixing him up with David Letterman but honestly I think they both did this on TV every night). The camera seemed to zoom in on the looks of real discomfort of the poor young women guests who were forced to endure this public torture. It seemed someone thought that the squirming  of sexual harassment victims was entertaining.

David Letterman


Being a kid I somewhat normalized what I saw. Gross  men, pretty  girls. Putting up with shit was the price these now forgotten female actresses had to pay..it never crossed my mind that really, seriously, these  women may have had something important they wanted to say, but they ended up spending their fifteen minutes of fame being the butt of sexual jokes based on their body parts.

Biden Again, King of Touchy Feely

This is the dominant culture. It's not new. It's as old as slavery and every other form of breaking the human spirit . I'ts a sly form of energy vampirism, and in the physical world this sort of behaviour..such as drugging women and having sex with them..equates sexual violence.

Obama come get your boy..Biden
Her body language shows discomfort and he knows she is uncomfortable 

Biden back in the day

 And ALL men should care because you are on the hit list too. Maybe more than you think.  Recently a heterosexual Black male actor age 49 chose to file charges against a White male Hollywood executive for groping him. It seems these disgusting gropers enjoy absolutely humiliating their victims. So it is not just about attacking and degrading females. They can get the same and sometimes even a bigger "thrill ( jolt of energy) from groping a Black Man whom is heterosexual and married. Actor Terry Crews say of the incident...even after shoving the offender away...
"I have never felt more emasculated, more objectified. I was horrified," Crews said. "It's so bizarre. I wake up every morning wondering, 'Did this really happen?'"



What these sick types enjoy is your discomfort. They enjoy the taking of innocence and making their victims question themselves. They are one nefarious spirit that exists in a quite a few men in power. Sex is not enough. They have no inner concept of love.  If you think these are healthy red blooded men who just happen to lust after sex a little too robustly..think again. They are not seeking sex or even sexual pleasure. They are seeking victims.

Pope and his Goon
 They go around groping everyone from their own daughters to strangers. You may think they do this for sexual pleasure..but these guys do this because they are sick. They have no idea what pleasure is. When caught they play the goofy lil boy and blame it on hormones and  that the victim was being sexually provocative. Do not fall for the lies. Grown ass men are not little boys. Its sad  that our society tends to fall for that excuse.


Groped and Shamed on Stage By Her Favorite Rapper

When powerful men suddenly become befuddled due to a woman and or girl ( or male victim) and just cant help but to reach out and grab or grope..we must refuse to accept any excuse. These men know exactly what they doing . It's not about them being aroused sexually and misreading their victims body language. The fact is that these men use sexual behaviour as a mask and scapegoat for their need to excerpt power over others.

Hands off The Babies Please!





We have to speak up. About real love, healthy sexuality and sensuality. We cannot lay down for their bullshit. It infects cartoons, commercials and becomes a subliminal message .. that people are just bodies that you can use. But the real energy they seek comes from taking another humans spirit.. and taking some ones inner  peace away. They use unwanted sexual touch as a weapons to let others know they can control and overpower you. They can fuck up your head just by groping you..just by undressing you with their eyes.
Being groped is annoying and hurtful and hard to prove whether it was a grope or an innocent touch

They leave the message that sexuality is not beautiful. We must recognize these "people" are using sex and sexual harassment as weapons and  as ways to syphon the energy of their victims. They are horrible role models because by default they teach young men that bodies have no emotional feelings, that the victims feelings are not important and that its just fine to go thru life disrespecting everyone. This is not about sex, pleasure or anything remotely healthy.


They love to grope, to shame, to overpower, to ridicule and humiliate. I can't say what creates them, but I will say that when we, as  a society, put handsome and or rich and charismatic young men on a pedestal..simply because they are charming..we tend to end up with a bunch of balding pot bellied self centered old scum buckets in positions of power.

Mr. Pussy Grabber Himself with his handful of a Daughter

Sex may have come easy for them back in the days. As they age they  start to take what they were always offered. Think of the stories of Hugh Heffner with his  failing dick forcing beautiful models to have sex with him though he could not stay hard anymore even with Viagra and was disgusting to look at. Why did he keep torturing women like that ? He was incapable of feeling pleasure and he knew they were miserable straddling his bony body..so it is obvious sex was used as a form of  "raising hell". The best he could do was take thier energy.

 This is why I will say do not put men on a pedestal when they are young and charming  . When he gets old  he will still feel he has a right to do whatever he wants,even though his charm has long been gone.Whatever makes a groper , a grabber, a bum ass man. We stand united against it. Male, female, young and old..all can be victims.  This type of person..gropers and grabbers.. should not be in leadership positions or within arms length of anyone.

Notice the tense body language of the girl she would slap him but its her crush

Friday, October 20, 2017

Spirituality and Rape ..How To Address The Issue by Rose Quartz



My back ground was mental health counseling before it was energy healing. *Melody was a disabled woman with honey blond hair that swung below her hips. She looked very much like any one, but she had developmental disabilities which affected her cognitive functioning. A grown woman with the "mind" of a fourteen year old.
 She was my client so I was called to Harborview  Medical Center to meet with her after her rape kit was given and she had completed the post rape medical exam. I don't remember much. Except the way her pain seemed to scrape and attack her face from the inside out. Anger. How. Why .Me. And howling pain. Scrunched up shame like a paper ball exploding behind her cheekbones and eye sockets. Tears were the last thing I noticed. They were futile in washing the bad feelings away. She cried but felt no release. She tried not to cry. Mainly she hated herself.


Later alone at my desk I cried and could not stop. It hurt so much. "It" being rape. As a counselor we were not taught how to protect our "energy".  And when it comes to sitting across from a rape victim hours after the rape there is no good preparation. I imagine those who work in trauma have learned to build a wall up to protect themselves from the daily pain of victims. Even before I was a healer, I was a healer so it was natural for me to absorb some of the overload of her pain.
In this case I was not the victim of rape.. I was able to cry it out and eventually clear out much of the immediate shame and betrayal I felt. Unlike the victim of rape my private parts had not been grossly intruded upon. My body had not been smudged with dirty hands or touched by the breathe of a monster. I could walk to my car without walking a walk of shame. I was still whole. 


Years later I came into the healing field and energy work. I noticed many professional helpers from Life Coaches to Spiritual  Healers often suggest that the things that happen to us..happen because  we on some level wanted them to or asked for it. Common philosophies are:
1.) It is part of  your Souls Journey and you asked for the Experience before you were born 
2.) We attract everything that happens to us based on the quality of our thoughts..i.e. "positive " or "negative" thoughts create "positive" or "negative" experiences.

Both philosophies put responsibility on the victim. This works well enough when a practitioner is fishing for clients and the issues are lightweight. But what about rape..? 

Similarly with the rape of continents and  the rape of cultures and populations thru wars..those philosophies do not cut it. The truth is that bad things happen all the time at the hands of bad people.  And there is a spiritual reason for bad people and entities but..beyond that, the pain they cause has no excuse.  Victims are victims. To suggest someones soul wanted to experience rape is the reason why many healers are not taken seriously. Instead we must share the divine truth that the human nature is immensely strong and there are ways to survive rape and survive the post traumatic stress that can haunt a person for an entire lifetime if not addressed with love and care.


Healers can help by listening and  by beginning the work of helping clients release the pain anywhere and everywhere it has manifested and is stored in their body. This pain can settle in the physical body as well as victims energy fields. There will also be repressed memories, and subconscious layers to tangle with and set free. There will and should always be an everlasting sense of violation

Some practitioners like to offer magic bullets and immediate healing. And it is true many of us can go in  and remove blockages. But in order for an individual to heal it is my belief  that they must take their time to really and thoroughly go thru a process that they control. Assisting with tools to strengthen them for the journey is our best bet. Breathe, Meditation , Helping them loosen up blocks and gently begin energy movement. Being there for them and letting them know we see the progress is our most important job. The scars of rape go straight to the soul, rip thru the spirit and damage the entire universe. We must be there to help facilitate healing. But we cannot do it for them.



I hope this Blog Has Been Helpful To All Of Us on Our Healing Journey
Peace and Blessings From Emily Imani Rose Quartz
Presenter, Workshop Leader, Consultant
emily.imani@gmail.com
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Supreme Harmony Between The Sex's: His and Her Perspective

How has the opposite sex helped you identify traits about yourself whether it be masculine, or feminine? Who had the influence that helped you identify these traits, and how they come about?



His Perspective by Trai

"Supreme harmony is the principal that holds what we call “the universe” in harmony. I would say balance, but balance is immovable and there is no life if nothing is moving" -Trai

A partner, relative, or friend, etc. has many aspects about themselves that make up who they are. Who they are, can help us identify characteristics about ourselves in countless ways. These characteristics may pertain to our opposite’s sides (e.g. masculine, and feminine traits).
These traits are our logical, and feeling aspects, as well as how we notice these traits in others. It does not necessarily have to be someone close, or someone you know. When you notice a certain attribute about someone it has an appeal to the observer. It can be their speech, posture, sensitivity. 
As a man I can say alot of  my traits that I gained in my younger days, are from my mother. As far as being more emotionally reactive to situations instead of balancing it out with it a more logical approach. 

Well, after much  needed quality time with my partner, it made sense to me that while being together with her,  I felt more in place. In other words I felt more like I was adjusting to my role as a male. Without feeling like I had to be my own emotional support system as well as being my logically guided support system, plus other factors all in one. 

I was able to allow myself to let my partner be the woman for me, instead of me being the woman for me, and vice versa.

Letting your partner take back that character in either category of masculine or feminine, can place them “in their power” where they work their suitable placement by default. In summary, letting your partner be the man or woman they are supposed to be can free you from feeling like you have to play the identity of both.




Her Perspective by RoseQuartz

In many ways I am a very feminine woman. But on a day to day basis, I tend to rely more on my so called "masculine" traits.  Problem solving and getting to the point of things is important. As mother parenting by myself, I have do more than  the feminine role of nurturing or I think my household will fall apart.  Of course I feel more feminine in my free time, but it doesn't compare to what happens when near to a man.



 For some reason being around a man awakens my feminine mystique. Meaning I even become mysterious to myself. Which in itself is a form of vulnerability. I suddenly realize my body is a lush and sexy, even if my abs are not a six pack. I notice that parts of my body and mind are incredibly attractive to a man, simply because I have curves, both mental and physical where he has none.

When I am around the opposite sex and I'm not comfortable, my first instinct is to hide my femininity and shift into a more masculine posture.  

But if I'm with a man such as my partner, who I feel safe with, I can let my feminine nature breathe. It's a relief to me.  My femininity is both soft and strong. It's not passive. It can be aggressive. It's an  ever changing mix of tender and fierce. Something a man will see as worthy of submitting to,  even as enjoys his dominance.  
Looking at him..
I begin to witness masculine traits as they appear in a man, not just as an abstract concept within myself. 
I enjoy letting him use his energy,  his "cocky" walk, and his aloof facial expressions to lead our way thru crowds. Because he has no desire to meet the needs of random people on the street, he creates a protective barrier around us.  
 Some women will say this is old fashioned. I disagree. I know my strength and power. Part of my power is allowing  my "strength"to shift away from certain things and into experiencing myself without shame or worry. Being so natural  like the pungent scent of an rose in full bloom on a humid afternoon. There is a freedom in not needing assert my masculine energy, especially because my feminine side is so often suppressed. And almost always oppressed.

Once I let go of the fairy tales it became clear to me that feminine traits have nothing to do with weakness just as masculine traits do not determine strength. The difference between masculine and feminine traits is mostly in how we process things and  how we respond emotionally and expressively. These opposite traits were never meant to compete or clash with each other but to create a completeness.

Final Thoughts:
 The opposite sex reveals to me what I am not, and thru that I begin to fall deeper in love with what I am.  Modern society suggests that  men are acting out of their feminine side more and more due to lack of male role models. Our young men pick up their single moms ways of  dealing with stuff, which  denies them a chance to tap into their dominant traits. Similarly girls & women are acting out more of their masculine traits in their struggles for survival with no man around. The end result is that  many of us bring too much of the same dish to the table when it comes to our romantic relationships. Sort of like a poorly planned potluck.

Healing Moments
Taking the time to recognize and relish how the opposite sex helps you identify your masculine and/or feminine traits is great way to fall back into your natural self while providing 
 self revelation and healing to your partner.







Sunday, October 15, 2017

Overwhelmed to Inner Peace, Fear of Being Yourself in a Cold World


These days its way too easy to be overwhelmed. Notice I did not say to "feel" overwhelmed. Being overwhelmed is  different. You may not even feel it at all as you appear, even to yourself, to be gliding thru the day with a mutable facial expression. A smile here where needed, a blank look as soon as you turn the corner, a growling frown when a weaker more annoying person appears on the horizon. The minute someone asks you how you are, the inner robot spurts out "Fine!" then tosses the question back as if in retribution.."And how are you ? "..

In an economically fragile time more people than not are forced into an unspoken competition. The scoreboard is recorded on social media. Events, name dropping,  charitable acts are tallied up. Likeable, lovable and wow type ratings are given for images of you, which you have chosen out of ten less flattering pictures. Your inbox floods with people whom you have nothing much to say. Emojis become your best friend. Oh what a life. How in the hell can I get out ?

Sitting near a pine tree in my front yard, dressed in a few layers but warming up in a particularly hot beaming October sun..I struggle to focus on my work. In the corner of my laptop little notifications pop up. My curiosity drifts ..it's only one click. We all have such issues, meanwhile we are facing our fears of homelessness and failure. We are told to never give up on our dreams. So here under all the layers I ask , What is my dream ?

 I have been thinking alot about images and my image being an outward manifestation of my imagination and spirit. I been called a sensualista for quite a while. My digital footprint is maybe too expository. I dance alot. I show my womanhood and sensuality as being natural, awkward and unstaged, soft, strong , vital and healthy. Political and intellectual. And I know for a fact that at times this has blocked me from getting a job. My digital footprint is more or less my real footprints, barefoot and where I been, how I dance, what I think. It's not entirely embraced by a society that loves to buy and sell sex..but hates to see sensuality without whoredom. 

I close my eyes and take deep breathes. One grey cat, then a brownish one slowly creep past testing the waters of my human form, trustworthy but still testing. I breathe and listen to birds. I here a spurring noise of wings fluttering by. I try to ignore the voices of kids on the block. I just wanna hear the birds. I wish I was somewhere hotter in less clothes. That the breeze was of saltwater mist cooling my face. I create in my minds inner space, a different state of mind. I want to be a good woman, a good "girlfriend",  a great mother and  everything else I could possibly be. My standards leave no room for life. Maybe we are pushed too hard to push ourselves too hard into a whirl of  over thinking, overdoing and  non satisfaction.

The remedy ? Go be where you love, Go be with who you love. It might just be you is all you need, everything else is icing on the cake so choose the flavor and consistency that adds to it , but does not overwhelm the taste of you.

I release the need to be more than what I am. I release the need to over think my success/ I accept life as it is. What I do naturally is my calling. 

Peace and Blessings From Rose Quartz


Emily Imani Rose Quartz