Why Women Pursue Relationships When They Really Just Want A Man By Rose Quartz

Emily Imani Rose Quartz

This blog covers the relationship bloopers females make & the psycho-social reasons behind the blunders. Is it time for women to grow up ? 

There are  men who just want sex or attention that we allow to sit on the back burner in case our man is not giving us enough attention. Those other guys can make you not appreciate the one who really loves you. All that extra energy is disruptive . You have to turn all the back burners off. The internet and cell phones make it so we can have people lingering around without directly contacting them. It's so slight it's hard to accept that these  extra guys may cause problems. This is a mental thing. The real issue is not that these other men are on your fb page or stored in your contacts; The issue is that you have a certain mental awareness of them that you rather not put into words because of what they represent.

You must do a deep self evaluation. If your man is loyal, listens, invests his energy in your future and shares from his heart then you have a winner. If he does not do those things naturally, then he does not have those feelings for you. Why do women love a challenge so much?  Women are constantly in competition with other women. For many this starts with a mom or sister and gets worse until it becomes a subconscious way of being. From fifty-two inch long hair weaves, to trying to "out-man" a man..women feel pressure at all times to prove something. We pick all kinds of crazy ways to prove we are worthy of the most elusive non-existent love.

The end result is alot of  unpaid actresses,  acting nothing like themselves, to the point they don't even know who they are.

 Men and boys on the other hand tend to compartmentalize their competitive instincts into more logical categories such as income, sports, cars and being able to protect themselves.

Girls are socialized to compete with beauty, sex and popularity. By the time a young woman is 18 she may be a total actress in her desire to fulfill the demands the world puts on her.   Sex is a means to an end, whether it's a new baby or proving how amazing she is to a man.

 If it's popular to have a selfish attitude about sex, then a young lady will adopt that attitude. Is she seeking pleasure or feeling sensual ? Not likely. Only thru self acceptance does a woman become sensual and open to pleasure combined with deep love. It's not a child's game, but being promiscuous is. Promiscuity is the sexual form of popularity.

Somehow social media  has become a major motivator for having a man and even for having a baby due to the  attention and affirmations.  In the end alot of females want a man for a variety of reasons, primarily self-serving. Yes.  I know. And that is something we need to be honest about because a relationship is not about wanting a man, but  about being ready to love and care for another human even when it means sacrificing your happiness and your needs.

 Women's brains go spirituality haywire when in lust and women get all types of soul mate vibes , but it boils down to lust and wanting to own or control a certain man. Wanting a man is not the same as wanting a relationship. You can always have that man if you try hard enough. Choosing a partner for a relationship is a different thing.

 Keep in mind that a man who really loves you, doesn't love you for your looks, your sexual acrobatics or your brains. He loves you for the whole of you and a million other aspects of your essence that you probably are not even aware of. He loves you for what you cant control or even see about yourself.

 Too often we still want to be recognized for the fake shit a man could care less about. We fight our mans love when it isn't perfectly catered to our theatrics and drama.  The other huge blooper is that women do not like to explore why they want a certain man. Some women are only attracted to men who are not single. Some women are only turned on by men who seem hard to get. Even if you choose the "perfect" mate for yourself..you still must ask these questions:

If you took away the shared interests, money, sex and good looks and were left with just the person standing there naked with all his extra flaws..Do you still want  to be in a relationship him? Or did you just want that man in order to have him ?

 What if he was not popular or  not employed ? Would you still love him ?  Once we "catch" the guy we chased..we are left with a real human who is not so perfect or glamorous as we imagined. 

The problem is not  that women look for the wrong type of man.. The problem is that most women are looking for a man, not a relationship. We want someone to make us feel good 24/7,  to take pics with and post on social media. Someone to boost our ego and send good morning texts. Females beg for a relationship when they really just want a man and if they could program that man like a sex doll to do all the right things they would.

 We forget that being in a relationship is about realizing that you care for another human. Who you choose should be  a support system and an equal investor.

You want that man to have a big heart and treat you with reliable consistency and to uplift you..he could be older, younger..from a different country or perhaps have a handicap or disability. But when you look in his eyes you feel a softness in your heart.  You bring peace to his life and he brings peace to yours. 

It's never to late to re-evaluate your inner funk and make updates. If you keep doing the same thing with different partners it's only natural you will see the same results.

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