Harmony Between The Sexes, His n' Hers Perspectives by Rose Quartz and Trai

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How has the opposite sex helped you identify traits about yourself whether it be masculine, or feminine? Who had the influence that helped you identify these traits, and how they come about?

His Perspective by Trai

"Supreme harmony is the principal that holds what we call “the universe” in harmony. I would say balance, but balance is immovable and there is no life if nothing is moving" -Trai

A partner, relative, or friend, etc. has many aspects about themselves that make up who they are. Who they are, can help us identify characteristics about ourselves in countless ways. These characteristics may pertain to our opposite’s sides (e.g. masculine, and feminine traits).

These traits are our logical, and feeling aspects, as well as how we notice these traits in others. It does not necessarily have to be someone close, or someone you know. When you notice a certain attribute about someone it has an appeal to the observer. It can be their speech, posture, sensitivity. 

As a man I can say alot of  my traits that I gained in my younger days, are from my mother. As far as being more emotionally reactive to situations instead of balancing it out with it a more logical approach. 

Or is it something else that’s unnoticed?

Well, after much  needed quality time with my partner, it made sense to me that while being together with her,  I felt more in place. In other words I felt more like I was adjusting to my role as a male. Without feeling like I had to be my own emotional support system as well as being my logically guided support system, plus other factors all in one. 

I was able to allow myself to let my partner be the woman for me, instead of me being the woman for me, and vice versa.

Letting your partner take back that character in either category of masculine or feminine, can place them “in their power” where they work their suitable placement by default. In summary, letting your partner be the man or woman they are supposed to be can free you from feeling like you have to play the identity of both.

Her Perspective by RoseQuartz

In many ways I am a very feminine woman. But on a day to day basis, I tend to rely more on my so called "masculine" traits.  Problem solving and getting to the point of things is important. As mother parenting by myself, I have do more than  the feminine role of nurturing or I think my household will fall apart.  Of course I feel more feminine in my free time, but it doesn't compare to what happens when near to a man.

 For some reason being around a man awakens my feminine mystique. Meaning I even become mysterious to myself. Which in itself is a form of vulnerability. I suddenly realize my body is a lush and sexy, even if my abs are not a six pack. I notice that parts of my body and mind are incredibly attractive to a man, simply because I have curves, both mental and physical where he has none.

When I am around the opposite sex and I'm not comfortable, my first instinct is to hide my femininity and shift into a more masculine posture.  

But if I'm with a man such as my partner, who I feel safe with, I can let my feminine nature breathe. It's a relief to me.  My femininity is both soft and strong. It's not passive. It can be aggressive. It's an  ever changing mix of tender and fierce. Something a man will see as worthy of submitting to,  even as enjoys his dominance.  

The True Emergence of Self, merging with The One
Whose Dominant Traits are the Opposite of Mine

I begin to witness masculine traits as they appear in a man, not just as an abstract concept within myself. 

I enjoy letting him use his energy,  his "cocky" walk, and his aloof facial expressions to lead our way thru crowds. Because he has no desire to meet the needs of random people on the street, he creates a protective barrier around us.  

 Some women will say this is old fashioned. I disagree. I know my strength and power. Part of my power is allowing  my "strength"to shift away from certain things and into experiencing myself without shame or worry. Being so natural  like the pungent scent of an rose in full bloom on a humid afternoon. There is a freedom in not needing assert my masculine energy, especially because my feminine side is so often suppressed. And almost always oppressed.

Once I let go of the fairy tales it became clear to me that feminine traits have nothing to do with weakness just as masculine traits do not determine strength. The difference between masculine and feminine traits is mostly in how we process things and  how we respond emotionally and expressively. These opposite traits were never meant to compete or clash with each other but to create a completeness.

Final Thoughts:

 The opposite sex reveals to me what I am not, and thru that I begin to fall deeper in love with what I am.  Modern society suggest  men are acting out of their feminine side more and more due to lack of male role models. Our young men pick up their single moms ways of  dealing with stuff, which  denies them a chance to tap into their dormant dominant traits. Similarly girls & women are acting out more of their masculine traits in their struggles for survival with no man around. The end result is that  many of us bring too much of the same dish to the table when it comes to our romantic relationships. Sort of like a poorly planned potluck.

Healing Moments

Taking the time to recognize and relish how the opposite sex helps you identify your masculine and/or feminine traits is great way to fall back into your natural self while providing balance.

 relief and healing to your partner.